Been with my DH 10 years, married 6, DS 6 and DD 3.
I guess in many ways he has always been quite grumpy and has had a bad temper, he has never hit me or the children but has certainly shouted quite vile things at us in the past.
Over the past two years things have got a lot worse. I work three days a week which is resents (makes comments like 'oh of course you'll be buggering off to work tomorrow then), he is also very critical of the way indo things. Its true I am messier than him, but its everything from how much cereal I put in DCs bowls in the morning, to what shelf I put the cereal on right through to bigger things like what I spend money on. I make no less than him but am made to feel very guilty for treating the children, buying them clothes that aren't absolutely necessary. We have no money problems or debt.
He shows no kindness towards me and drinks around five cans of beer a night when I don't drink alcohol. I do 90% of stuff with kids, take them out, play games, read books etc.
He makes comments if I spend time with family that I'm going to turn them against him and makes no effort to see my friends or family.
I feel I am on egg shells as the smallest thing will set him off. He seems to think everything I do is wrong and then if I try to speak to him about any of the above he says I am just as bad (I promise I am not, if anything I try to ignore him and organise stuff for DC to keep out of the way).
He is very moody and negative, draining the joy out of small things.
I don't know what to do. He wont leave the house. My son is very sensitive and I don't want to upset him.
Thanks for any advice..
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helpmeplease2045 · 28/12/2016 21:39
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