Will try to keep his brief but I could do with some perspective please.
Backstory: DH's parents divorced when he was young. His mum remarried and then had three children close together (within 2 years) when DH was a teenager.DH had to share a room with the kids. DH then got into a serious relationship at 16 and basically moved out. We met and got married after that relationship ended. Early on in our relationship he cried and said he didn't feel like he had a home :-(.
MIL worships him (he is polite, successful, bright and good looking - I see where she is coming from!). However some times that doesn't turn into actual effort. His 21st (which we spent with them) was a washout - she hadn't even got him a card, we spent the day in a shopping centre trying to find him a present wih him there and then went to Ask for dinner because his 6 year old brother wanted to. No explanation was given.
They spent this xmas with us. DH and I are being careful as we are saving for a house but we hosted and we still spent at least twenty pounds on each of them (all 5 of them). Lots of expensive gifts were handed out for MIL, SFIL and kids. DH and I got a board game to share. That's it.
He says I'm materialistic. I think it's shoddy to be hosted by your son and give him a crappy present and still swap expensive presents between the rest. It's brought back his 21st. We are spending new year with them.
Am I overreacting and making this more than it is?
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MIL - don't know what to do :-(
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AyeAyeFishyPie · 28/12/2016 00:31
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