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Dolphins23 Tue 27-Dec-16 19:55:12

So fed up! I've been feelin like crap for weeks, found out I've got gall stones that caused an infection, then found out I've got polyps on my Gall bladder I've been in pain with this lot, then I fainted and sprained my foot so I'm in pain with this too, I've been workin and looking after 2 kids and cleanin up whilst not havin many days off but he's had 3 weeks off. And just because I don't feel up to havin fun in the bedroom he's kicking off, slouching on the sofa, hood covering his face sulking and not helpin me!! Demanding my phone cuz he seems to think I'm cheating... Even though I've been in pain, feeling like crap!! And he doesn't even make me feel like do anything. Holding his hand out and telling me go upstairs... And then I say no and accuses me of having it with someone else Makes me feel worse! Sayin it makes him feel unwanted and unloved!! Sorry for the rant but it's been goin on for days same thing over n over and needed a rant!

53rdAndBird Tue 27-Dec-16 20:00:15

He is treating you really badly. Not in a "ha, men, who'd have 'em?" way but in a "bloody hell, start making plans to leave" way. Nobody deserves to be treated like he's treating you, honestly.

Snowflake65 Tue 27-Dec-16 20:01:31

Agree with previous poster, you don't need to rant, you need to make plans to leave.

klassykringle Tue 27-Dec-16 20:03:27

Yeah - that's not "men", that's just abuse.

RacoonBandit Tue 27-Dec-16 20:06:36

Please please do not think his behaviour is "men's" behaviour.

It's not. He is a twat. A controlling twat too.
Not all men are like that.
It is not his sex that makes him a twat it is his personality.

If you can get rid of him asap.

CalleighDoodle Tue 27-Dec-16 20:12:36

As the others have said, he is horrendous. Leave him.

Dolphins23 Tue 27-Dec-16 20:24:32

It's not just this aswell. You know when you just feel hatred against someone after realising all the crap put u through.. I just feel that. This is just a tiny bit of it. He's so horrible to me and my son, can't do anything right and always calls us stuff, muttering away all the time been horrible. but our daughter gets away with anything. My son isn't his btw. I've been wanting us all to go away on holiday for 4 years but no way will he do that. He says he's not doing anything with us. Prefers to just sit in the house or kicks off because we can't just have us two time. It's only my mum that has the kids and she works a lot, none of his family with have them! Just makes my life miserable!!! He is so controlling. But it is hard to leave. I can't voice my opinion else he will just fire up and go mental. Makes it out like it's all my fault. He does strain me when he goes mad and I am scared to say anything. I do want to get out though, in my head I'm out but it's just actually going through with it! I'm the shy person that won't tell anyone my problems, I don't like putting things on people so it's all bottled up. I don't know how to actually go though, I know for a fact he won't go, and cuz I'm in a council house both of our names on it. I don't no if I will be able afford private or something. Any help with advice there would be great. Thanks

klassykringle Tue 27-Dec-16 20:27:50

Could you call Women's Aid? They should be able to give you practical advice.

roodie Tue 27-Dec-16 20:30:30

He's manipulating you. He knows you're in pain. He doesn't for a moment think you're having it off with somebody else. he' knows you're over worked, up to your eyes in kids and in pain and he does not care but he suspects that if he accuses you of cheating you might give in and have sex to ''prove'' you're not cheating.

My advice is that he sounds like an ARSEHOLE and your life would be easier without a man who simply does not care how much distress you're in.

roodie Tue 27-Dec-16 20:31:51

Call women's Aid. I second that.

fallenempires Tue 27-Dec-16 20:40:18

He sounds awful OP & he is nothing like the men in my life or the men I choose to know as friends.
He is a bully & an abuser.
You deserve better and so does your ds who learns about relationships from those closest to him,what kind of a role model is this so called man to him?!
I can't offer practical advice re:housing as such but as PP's have mentioned Womens Aid may be a good starting point possibly Gingerbread too.
Hopefully others will chip in with some more advice.
Look after yourself & your ds flowers

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