Hi guys!
I desperately need some advice. Ok here goes...
I met my boyfriend through online dating in April 16. We started off as friends as I had no intentions of getting into a relationship. We went for coffee, lunches, movies, etc without any physical contact what so ever. Then in July16 we both decided to be more than friends....hence we started dating and sex was amazing.
Things were great. Absolutely great. He is the most caring guy ive met. But since mid November something was off, I couldn't understand what was going on. He wouldn't want to meet up, but he called me everyday without fail. So I thought I was over reacting and over thinking things.
2 weeks ago we went for a movie, it was great, but there was no intimacy at all, not even kissing, we hadn't seen eachother for almost 2 weeks, and it was bothering me now all evening. So that night after I went back home I blew up on the phone with him, I lost my cool, couldn't take it anymore. Asked him if he was seeing someone else or if his feelings had changed, I asked him to be honest and He assured me that there was nothing going on and he just needed time to sort some issues relating to family and financial problems.
However on lastnight we met up we were supposed to go for dinner but instead we sat in the car, he brought beer and said he needed to talk. So I asked him "are you gay because all the signs were pointing to that" he said he was bisexual.
I was in shock, Still am and angry that he took so long to tell me, hid all this and this whole time I was feeling bad thinking its all my fault. I kept thinking maybe my actions have changed that's why hes behaving like this.
He told me he was sorry and embarrassed and i could see it in his eyes and said that he was trying to change himself but he cant, he is who he is and that we can be friends but not in a relationship. He said i can see other people but not tell him about it, because he wont be able to take it, so if i was sleeping with someone he doesnt want to know. He said he didn't tell me all this because he was trying to change himself as he really wanted to be with me but he just physically cant and also he didn't want to want to lose me . He was genuinely sorry it was obvious.
I don't know how to handle this. I love him...I don't know what to do. I told him that I need time to process things. I'm trying, really am, but I'm hurting like shit. I respect his sexuality, I just wished he was honest from the beginning. But then again I thanked him for opening up lastnight
I don't know if I can handle being friends? I don't know if I should completely cut him out? please help.
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My boyfriend is Bisexual
lisacraw78 · 27/12/2016 01:45
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