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Partner lied about getting me a christmas gift

(24 Posts)
Isyss Sun 25-Dec-16 22:24:24

I dont understand why he did this? I havent been with him long, a few months. I caught something on his phone, he was messaging his "friend" who was female, after this we spoke and worked things out.
He said he will get me a pair of designer shoes for xmas, a few days ago when I saw him and he went to harrods he told me he got them and that the woman who helped him pick them out said "when she sees them she will want to marry you"
and claimed he left them at his friends house and will give them to me closer to xmas.

I saw him after this and I saw him yesterday he never brought the shoes or even mentioned them.

I am taking it he lied about it but i dont get why? He is the one who suggested it I said he doesnt have to get me anything.

what was the point in all this? now it is making me see him as a liar and untrustworthy

Thattimeofyearagain Sun 25-Dec-16 22:27:09

He is a liar and untrustworthy. He's showing you who he is.

Wileycoyote Sun 25-Dec-16 22:28:38

Bin him

TheoriginalLEM Sun 25-Dec-16 22:31:28


TrustySnail Sun 25-Dec-16 22:35:56

These sound like head games to me.

twattymctwatterson Sun 25-Dec-16 22:38:02

Jesus get rid

TheClacksAreDown Sun 25-Dec-16 22:38:48

Get rid. He likes playing with your head

Mistykit Sun 25-Dec-16 22:39:23

Run away.. quickly. He's messing with your head

OohhThatsMe Sun 25-Dec-16 22:39:39

You've been spun a complete lie. He bought shoes for you from Harrods? Bollocks. And I'd bet my house he's still talking to his little friend.

DancingDinosaur Sun 25-Dec-16 22:40:59

Thats weird. If he's lied then you need to get rid. Not because he didn't buy you a gift, but because that is an odd thing to do. It sounds like he is playing games with you.

tribpot Sun 25-Dec-16 22:45:16

Not really the point, but not even Cinderella wanted to marry someone based on a pair of shoes.

InTheKitchenAtParties Sun 25-Dec-16 22:46:28

Don't just get rid. Ghost him.

Lindy2 Sun 25-Dec-16 22:46:53

In a healthy relationship you would be perfectly confident to simply ask him where the shoes are that he said he had bought you. If you can't ask and you think it's all been a lie, then it doesn't sound like a good relationship to me.

InTheKitchenAtParties Sun 25-Dec-16 22:48:01

You need to ask him directly 'where's my shoes?'

InTheKitchenAtParties Sun 25-Dec-16 22:49:05

X post with Lindy2

gamerchick Sun 25-Dec-16 22:50:34

Ask him, he'll still say they're at his mates until you stop asking.

He will do this sort of thing repeatedly. Save yourself years and dump his arse now.

But ask him, he'll look you dead in the eye and then you'll know.

Hellooooitsme Sun 25-Dec-16 22:55:40

Did you give him anything?

InfoFreako Mon 26-Dec-16 01:27:49

Ask him straight "did you buy me Christmas shoes and if so where are they?"

Sounds like he likes to big himself up (low self-esteem maybe?) Some folk would call him a bull-shitter.

Good luck!


pregnantat50 Mon 26-Dec-16 01:31:26

I would say "so when do I get to see these shoes that will make me want to be your wife?" in a light hearted him squirm or see a light bulb moment appear on his face when he remembers the shoes (praying for that being the way it pans out, but if he comes up with anything else, he really isnt worth your time )

bloodyteenagers Mon 26-Dec-16 01:50:00

Ask him.
Expect to either be gaslighted. 'Shoes, what shoes?'
Or some ridiculous story about them being damaged at his mates. Or his mates sisters, cats neighbours is best mates with a fly who lives in a house with someone who loves shoes. There was a mix up and the sister thought they were for her. And of course the mate couldn't say no. By which time Harrods was closed and his mates a bit skint so will come in a few weeks.

pregnantat50 Mon 26-Dec-16 02:03:16

what is this womans role in all this, do you know her, could you ask her directly about the shoes?

YetAnotherSpartacus Mon 26-Dec-16 02:04:38

Dump and run.

TurnipCake Mon 26-Dec-16 10:43:04

You've only been together for a few months, and already there were issues to get through

Jeez, life is too short

happychristmasbum Mon 26-Dec-16 10:52:46

Bin Him!

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