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Child hitting child advice please

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user1482598460 Sat 24-Dec-16 17:06:44


I have a girl and a boy of which I have custody. Every weekend they see their Dad who has a new partner. About two weeks ago It was bought to my attention that his partner's youngest is continually hitting my youngest. Apparently at some points he has screamed out. They demonstrated this to me as a hard hit and the various points to which they had been hit. They had also said they had told my ex on numerous occaisions and he had asked her to stop, but hasn't really done much else to stop it.

I tackled him on this the other day, to which he replied that she has never hit him and they have a great time together. I continually probed until I asked if that meant the children were lying. He didn't acknowledge that. He only said he wanted to talk to them in private, which makes me wonder what he would be trying to say to them.

If he continually ignores this am I within my rights to refuse him access until he at least attempts to tackle it? I understand children have these phases, but if he is seeing it and doing next to nothing I worry for the long term effects as my youngest is already showing more aggressive behaviour following this.

BoneyBackJefferson Sat 24-Dec-16 18:58:11

how old are the children?

user1482598460 Sat 24-Dec-16 19:18:03

My child is 6 and the other child is 6.

BoneyBackJefferson Sat 24-Dec-16 19:27:05

So of an age to understand that its wrong.

Personally I would be asking him to sort it, or the children visiting will have to be re-thought out.

user1482598460 Sat 24-Dec-16 20:34:14

Thanks, that sounds like the right thing. Hoping it doesn't have to come to that.

DoosyFartlek Sat 24-Dec-16 20:37:29

I would let the children vote with their feet.

forumdonkey Sat 24-Dec-16 21:35:11

You say it's a new partner so is it necessary that they can't have time alone with their DF? That's what I'd be wanting

Lunar1 Sat 24-Dec-16 21:38:19

6 is old enough to know not to hit. I'd want their visits to just be with their dad till it's stopped.

user1482598460 Sat 24-Dec-16 23:01:15

Sadly it's been asked for time alone, especially by the eldest but it's rejected. The most infuriating part is that he just denies it to I believe in his eyes protect his partners child.

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