Younger sis left her partner of 20+yrs last September, no warning let alone to him and was a complete shock. She moved in with our Dad who lives alone, in the pretense of looking after him after eye surgery and never went home. Her Ex was beyond devastated, as were all the family - we've known him all our lives and his dad/our mum were together for well over 12 years so he's more family than just a partner if that makes sense. Over the weeks, it becomes clear sister has made a new "friend", who is a religious man (some local trendy church, not C of E) and he starts being a very big influence.... no one knows how they met, she won't even talk about him saying it's none of our business. She's bought a semi derelict house she's camping (sorry, living) in and he's so say "doing-up" on the side as he's a builder (some builder, he's listed on Companies House as a bankrupt developer with liabilities of over £4 million..........) and it's not even structurally sound. The money for this dump came from sister taking £100k from her ex partner, even though his mum gave it him and sister hadn't made any contributions to it....... This man is proving to be a horrible influence over her, she doesn't seem to think for herself anymore without asking his advice, it's like she's been brainwashed. She's given up all her friends and has new church ones, and quite frankly is an absolute stranger. When I questioned this man's place in her life, she kicked off massively just before Xmas last year, massive drama and she wouldn't speak to me for weeks saying I was toxic and ignoring her struggles........which yes I had but she hadn't shared them either! So cue this week, she starts whatsapping me at 2am ranting about how I'm no support to her, she's not coming for xmas, I've excluded her from my DDs birthdays (we went abroad and all the family were bloody excluded in that case), and she's not being poisoned by my negativity any longer. It's also a huge issue that we still her ex even though it's once a month or so - he's godparent to all my kids and my grandchildren, uncle to my kids that they've known since birth, and he lives 6 doors up the road. I've restrained from answering as I know she's playing for a fight, I'm not being her punchbag anymore and I'm just so utterly sick of it. My DH's father died recently, DH's business is struggling, my eldest DD has just had a baby with health issues and has a toddler with a serious long term condition so tbh I'm beyond exhausted and literally can't face another family drama from her. She has not once asked how I am this whole year. Is it mean to just ignore her threats, and if she stays away, then so be it? All I'm worried about is our mum, who seems to think sister is on the edge of a nervous breakdown and then won't come here on xmas day either. I'm just so so sick of her drama.
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Drama Queen sister has kicked off AGAIN - I just cannot be bothered!
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galaxygirl45 · 23/12/2016 21:42
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