Sorry for intruding on your site. A woman in my office reads out threads from the 'unreasonable' section and thats how I know about you guys.
I have a problem and was hoping some female advice might help, I can't really ask my mam and its nothing something I want to talk to my mates about.
Brief story, I had a long term relationship for 7 years that ended when she cheated on me. It really broke me up, I was a mess for the first year and i've been single ever since (for 3 years)
I'm weary of getting into another relationship but have had friends with benefits a few times and casual sex, sometimes once, sometimes a couple of times.
I met a woman about a year ago and we were FWB for about 6 months. She was the first woman i've really clicked with but she also wasn't looking for a relationship and she wasn't really what I was looking (or thought i was looking for). It kind of fizzled out, mostly on her side.
On to the problem, since her I haven't been able to maintain an erection with another woman. This has happened three times since her. At first I though it could be drink but it happened again sober. I can kind of get a semi but i doesn't last. Two weekends ago I bumped into her at a party and we hooked up. I was able to get and keep an erection no problem. Then yesterday the woman I am currently trying to start casual sex with came around (she is also sleeping with other men so no problems there). Again I couldn't get an erection.
She was really nice about it, but I don't understand what is going on.
Do you think its something psychological or that I can fix? Maybe my minds way of telling me I should get over myself and settle into a relationship? Also as a woman what I could say or do to make her feel better that it isn't about her (she is beautiful and a lovely woman).
Sorry if this is in the right place. I tried to post in your sex topic but it wouldn't let me.
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user1482447499 · 22/12/2016 23:21
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