I don't know where to start... I have been with my husband 10 years. Married 7. When we first got together I suffered my first of depression (now diagnosed bipolar). My self esteem and confidence are in the floor and have been for some time. I also self medicate with alcohol and am having private therapy to tackle this and my other issues.
A few weeks ago we had a massive argument and I told him I felt that he controls me. If we are arguing he gives me the silent treatment. He dismisses my thoughts and reactions. The argument was triggered when I asked for money to buy a Xmas present for him (I am sahm so have no funds). He said he didn't need a gift. I was adamant he should have one. I feel he should have transferred money to my account unquestioningly-
It's family money. But he seemed to enjoy the struggle.
I mentioned this to my therapist and she raised eyebrows. Ever since I have been wondering if he's abusive emobtionally and all
My self esteem and confidence issues are as a result of him.
He constantly acts like my parent, criticised my decisions to the point I can't make a small decision for myself.
We have been away this week and last night I was tried so made to return to the log cabin and asked him to bring the dc along when they were ready- he said nothing g but the look on his face told me to sit down and take my coat off- I ended up staying in the bar another hour.
Anyway, we just returned from a five day holiday where he has constantly nagged and criticised my behaviours and actions and I have had enough. On the way home I mentioned we need to pay the dog sitter so could he chuck me out to the cash point to pick some up. To which he replied you had some cash, why have you spent it rather than using the card. I asked him if he had eve heard himself and the way he talks to me like I am five. He denied and said that it was my negativity and I have been like that all week! I said, well you have to pick in my negativity now as I haven't had a drink for five days (this is what he normally moans about!). He parked up at home and started ranting about off yo go then, bugger off etc.
I am so confused. But beginning to feel I would be better off without him in the new year. To cap it off he has just upset my ds7 by play fighting him (as requested) but he's ended up in tears and dh stormed off.
Any advice am so confused
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mnaddict1 · 22/12/2016 20:39
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