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Il and in a muddle, am I expecting too much?

(9 Posts)
Elephantorhat Thu 22-Dec-16 13:09:49

I am quite prepared to be told that I am but I can't work it out, it's all too much for my befuddled cold ridden brain....
I came down with this horrible cough/cold thing yesterday, went to bed early feeling very rough, with a temperature and had a restless night with lots of coughing fits.
Nothing unusual there, just one of those things - I messaged my DP last night saying how rough I feel etc. Eventually up and awake around mid morning today and saw DP had been online on Facebook, posted lots etc but he hadn't messaged me asking how I was or anything. This really upset me, he was unwell last week and I did all I could to look after him. He then didn't even think to ask me how I am or express concern when he knows I'm ill.
I can't work out if I'm being extra sensitive because I'm ill or not. We have since communicated today but I'm feeling let down still.

fallenempires Thu 22-Dec-16 13:38:47

No you're not over sensitive.I would feel hurt too especially as you're there for him when he's been ill.
How is he generally?

TheNaze73 Thu 22-Dec-16 13:42:19

He's been in contact, what's the problem?

If I had someone messaging me when I was ill & disturbing me, I wouldn't like it.

Horses for courses this one. If he knows your sensitive & your phone is on silent, a quick text wouldn't have hurt

user1477282676 Thu 22-Dec-16 13:43:26

I also think you sound a tad over sensitive.

Elephantorhat Thu 22-Dec-16 14:27:09

He knows any messages he sends won't disturb me, phone is always off until I'm up anyway. It's more about feeling like he doesn't think to ask me how I am unless prompted. Then when I said I was sad about this he responded with asking me why was I with him and that I can't demand attention!
It all feels like hard work especially when I'm ill.

fallenempires Thu 22-Dec-16 14:41:04

Well that doesn't sound good does it?
How long have you been together?

BastardGoDarkly Thu 22-Dec-16 14:45:08

Meh, I'd probably be a bit hmm but if it was a stand alone thing, I wouldn't give it much thought.

I'm guessing he's a bit selfish in other ways?

Elephantorhat Thu 22-Dec-16 15:07:42

He is very selfish but he doesn't think he is and if I point it out he gets very critical of me and escalates it all into a much more serious argument, leaving me doubting myself :-(

fallenempires Thu 22-Dec-16 15:15:31

Doesn't sound great at all,why are you putting up with all this?

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