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Anyone managed to get over someone they have to see most days?

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Lollysuns · 21/12/2016 22:15

For instance because they live nearby or you work with them or they are a parent to your child?

Any tips really appreciated!

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WingsofNylon · 21/12/2016 22:25

Time, keeping your thoughts in check and focusing on the unattractive parts.

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Stickytoffeepuddings · 21/12/2016 23:20

As wingsofnylon says... and try distracting yourself by focusing and caring for yourself more.... I'm in that situation, see him frequently because if mutuial friends and family, small village, often bump into him..... we are now closer friends than we have ever been, still struggle to keep my thoughts in check at times as still hold a torch for him, but trying....getting easier!

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CherryBlossomPink · 22/12/2016 00:25

Keep a diary of all the reasons he is an ex, and when you start to feel nostalgic for the good times, read it! It's helping me to get over my STBXH although it's a slow process.

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LocksOfGold · 22/12/2016 07:12

What Wings said, literally just time!

I was infatuated with my colleague, we were together for about 8 months and when it ended I could NEVER see myself getting over him. Had to continue working with him everyday & would cry when I got home. However as time went on the feelings just faded (about a year unfortunately)
He recently tried it on with me at the Christmas party and it made me shiver all over! In a BAD way! I'm so over him it's ridiculous x

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Lollysuns · 22/12/2016 07:59

These posts are so encouraging! Thank you!!!

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LemonSqueezy0 · 22/12/2016 08:07

Don't let yourself romanticise him, or any interactions you have. Don't look for 'hidden meaning in things, don't communicate more than you have to. Don't let your imagination run riot On what could have been - focus on what is. And, always always always put yourself and your mental health first when making choices .

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Whathappensnowthen · 22/12/2016 16:46

In the same boat. I have been having a fling with my colleague. Wrong on so many levels - today I ended it. But I sit opposite him. Literally face to face for 7 hours Monday-Friday. Not sure how to 'move on' at this point, but just know that I have to. I intend to really focus on work and just try not to think about him. Serves me right for getting myself into such a stupid situation.

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Lollysuns · 22/12/2016 17:43

It's awful isn't it!!! I feel your pain! Agree focusing on work is a good plan. I'm finding it awful

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