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Chrismas with the resident narcissist

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fueledbybacon · 20/12/2016 15:40

Roll up, roll up!!!

Please share with one and all your methods for dealing with your resident narc this Christmas holidays.

My mother will be in my house for FOUR days over the Christmas period. It's my turn to have her. My sisters and I (never the gold child, precious son) take turns in having her. I live around 300km away from her so she's using this as an excuse to stay for four fucking days. I don't even drink so can't use that crutch Angry We're going to postpone our usual family activities until she's gone as she sucks the life and soul out of EVERYTHING. We'll be having our "Christmas" over New Years.

My plan is to keep her fairly boozed up so that she falls asleep on the couch before 7pm each night. I bought a brand new bottle of Jameson just to make sure I have enough. So tell me your plans to deal with your nightmare family members this lovely festive season.

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KatelovesJames · 20/12/2016 17:05

I'm hoping not to have to deal with my narc exh but he will probably surface at some point. I'm pregnant so with you on not able to even have a drink to cope!

Good luck with your mum, sounds like you have a plan though 😊

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Heatherplant · 20/12/2016 20:51

MIL is a nightmare, the positive is she lives in a different country. I have planned this visit of 4 days and booked a hotel that is still some 2 hours away from her house. Tomorrow I will have six hours with her. Highlights have included her refusing to acknowledge the new baby (new baby is a girl and she doesn't like girls) making a point of excluding me from each and every photograph taken and being her usual nasty self. I can drink and am currently sat in the hotel bar with a massive glass of white wine.

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SirNiallDementia · 20/12/2016 20:54

I highly recommend going no contact, causes a right old drama at first but it's so lovely not to have to deal with all that shite over Xmas.

But I do get sad that I don't have a "normal" mother as Xmas is such a family time.

I hope you all get through the festive season with your sanity intact Wine Brew xxx

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travellinglighter · 20/12/2016 21:30

I am well and truly rid of my resident narc. I got divorced and my ex-wife there was a custody battle but in the she had to keep her sister in law(brothers wife). The poor kids have to put up with her and her horrible brats but I’m free!!! FREE I TELL YOU.Grin

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travellinglighter · 20/12/2016 21:31

Try that again

I am well and truly rid of my resident narc. I got divorced there was a custody battle but in the end my ex wife had to keep her sister in law(brothers wife). The poor kids have to put up with her and her horrible brats but I’m free!!! FREE I TELL YOU. Grin

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fueledbybacon · 21/12/2016 16:33

I can't go NC unfortunately. Wish I could.

If I went NC I would probably ever see my siblings again Sad

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Adora10 · 21/12/2016 16:49

Season of goodwill, in other words, grin and bear whatever comes your way, it's family!

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Yourarejokingme · 21/12/2016 16:55

NC and if the others go NC because of it that's on them not you.

Christ I'm glad I don't have to deal with narc's now or manipulating arseholes anymore.

I feel your pain and keep her merry as possible.

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AdoraBell · 21/12/2016 17:05

Escaped by the skin our teeth this year. Not going to B/SIL as previously planned and the narc has now stropped and refused to come here post Christmas as previously planned.

Why would your siblings side with her if you go NC OP? Can they not see the wood for the trees?

YY to keeping her sloshed if it keeps her quiet/tame.

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jeaux90 · 21/12/2016 17:56

Well rid of my ex narc.

Shame you can't go nc but yes keep her boozed up, ignore the inflammatory remarks, if you have kids and she starts with the narc shit on them distract them away.

Good luck! I don't envy you, nasty shells of beings they really are xxx

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Hissy · 21/12/2016 18:10

Make this the last time, book to go elsewhere or make other plans. You don't have to do anything.

Seriously

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notrocketscience · 21/12/2016 18:37

Feed her laxatives so she stays in the loo for 4 days?

(JOKING!)

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Cherrysoup · 21/12/2016 23:44

Escaping all madness because the DH only has 2 days off, no way can we take the dogs/leave the horse over Christmas, family is visiting from another country, there will be near 20 people for Christmas dinner at a relative's house, lordy, lordy, how would we ever fit blah blah. Marvellous!

Narc mother is being well entertained by visiting family and I made 'not coming for Christmas' noises months ago, so am safe!

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