So, my Ex was emotionally/financially abusive & did some things that were heading towards DV. A couple of counsellors, incl our marriage counsellor, have confirmed this. He also cheated.
Yet, if people ask why we broke up, Ex hints that it was all the other way round: That I was controlling (emotionally and financially)...and if they know me, he tells them that he never cheated and hints that I might have cheated. Basically, he's flipped it all around to make himself a poor victim figure.
But this has me confused because if a potential new partner revealed that their Ex claims they are EA, wouldn't it be a red flag?
I ask because a friend of mine has a very similar experience to me. Their Ex has claimed they were EA etc, and has convinced a lot of people. I've known this person for a long time. I know you can never know what goes on inside closed doors, so while I mostly believe them, there is a part of me that wonders what is true....and then I realise people probably think/feel the same about me.
So does that mean I have red flags against my name, too? It's been years since we split and I haven't dated, but am thinking about it. Will this put people off?
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If an Ex says someone was EA, is it always a red flag?
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heynonymous · 18/12/2016 09:49
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