Help! I'm hoping someone has been in a similar situation or has a thought from an outside perspective.
My husband and I have been having difficulties for 2/3 years now, he's basically a good guy, I enjoy his company, we get on, I love him. But he's unable to take any responsibility on, he's gotten us into debt, he won't keep an eye on our finances. He's indifferent to the kids (2&5), if he's with them he's on his phone leaving them watching the telly, our eldest is autistic and he doesn't read any of the reports, discuss her with me, find out about her condition etc. We've been going to relate and I've said I feel I'd be happier on my own but we have kids to consider and I don't want to hurt him. But I've been very clear things needed to change. Yesterday was the last straw, he hadn't paid the credit card, wouldn't stand up to his mother, who can't accept our daughters diagnosis and believes it's bad parenting and a useless school. There were reports about our daughter I told him I'd found difficult to read, that they were heartbreaking. He didn't read them.
So I told him I wanted to separate in the new year, I couldn't before Christmas for the kids sake. But asked him to go overnight to give me some peace to think.
He left for a few hours but returned to help put the kids to bed, he was going to do as I asked but his mum told him to not leave things till the morning and come back last night.
We talked I made my feeling clear, he says he loves us and will change, but I've heard it before. If he would change that'd be great but I feel I've been let down so many times I'm unwilling to give him another chance.
So now he's home, wants to know what he can do to change, but I don't want him here but don't want to hurt him.
That probably makes little sense but if anyone has any ideas how I can proceed I'd really appreciate it.
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Joannepink · 17/12/2016 09:48
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