Dp has work do tomorrow, it starts at mid day all day, until whatever time they choose to go home free bar etc. He's leaving first thing in the morning as it's in another town 40mins away to pick up friend, then he's showering and getting ready at another friends house and staying there for the night. I can't drive to pick him up, and he hasn't insisted on getting a taxi home. Tonight he's layed out his boxers and socks ready for tomorrow, cuts his toenails, then when he got out of the shower asks me if he has any spots on his back which he does occasionally ask but hasn't in a while, does this sound dodgy to anyone or am I really just being stupid and paranoid? I have no reason to suspect anything of him really
I think it sounds innocent. If he doesn't go out much he's probably just excited. It makes me laugh sometimes how most women spend hours getting ready for nights out, shaving (maybe even down below) making them selves smell nice, having their hair done, picking a nice outfit but when men do it, it means they are up to something!
Maybe he asked about the back because he hasn't asked in a while? If he is staying with a friend then a number of things that might slide at home such as the nails are also getting done just in case his friend might see them.
If he is showering and changing at a friends house maybe he didn't want to be round his mates wearing crappy underwear, a spotty back and cave man toenails! Men are allowed to smarten themselves when they go out.
I shave the top of my mans back when he goes out with the boys (which is rare) and check for spots on his back to squeeze, not because he plans to pull anyone but because it makes him feel more comfortable and he worries about it.
He also asks if he looks ok (which he always does, bless his large mixed fibre socks)
When I go out he never questions why I've laid out half my wardrobe on the bed, tried on several different shoes or spent ages doing my hair and make up.
It all sounds totally innocent to me too....however...if your DH is behaving out of character or has suddenly started taking much more care of his appearance or you have other reasons to suspect (jealously guarding phone, keeping strange hours. Working late, more or less sex etc) ...