Basic outline. I have a recently new boyfriend for 6 months, don't live with him. I have 2 DC. Good relationship
I have a few male friends, mostly who I know through work and such like, married or unmarried - friends/colleagues. None of us work in the same building anymore but we seem to have stayed in touch (but separately - we aren't a group of friends although we all know each other) and this is via occasional emails or text and 99% of any chats is work/organisation related or just 'hey how are things'. Boyfriend knows I speak to these blokes in this capacity as I have mentioned them in passing probably. Nothing untoward has ever occurred in my mind.
one of them is the type what I would class as 'knowing he's a good looking bloke' (he is, I cant deny it - he isn't ugly) and I have partaken in a fair amount of ribbing him about his ego. We've had some really good work related laughs over the years. He's married and has kids and even when I was single we have never overstepped any lines in fact he spent a while trying to set me up with a single colleague which never happened.
Recently he has been contacting me more frequently, initially about work stuff and now he has invited me to something, it is not 1:1 it is an event. I was polite and said hey well maybe I could pop by and that I could bring my boyfriend - who is now busy on that day. I told my BF about whether he fancied going (sounds fun anyway) but he can't. Work bloke is keen for me to come, and I could go with my friends but I'm not sure it would be appropriate for me to go at all. I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole, neither of us are single and although yes he isn't ugly, he's a cocky so and so and that's not my cup of tea. I'm concerned turning up without my BF would give off the wrong message and I'm also concerned he might be looking for something on the side, I have literally nothing to base this on apart from a gut feeling, so maybe i am the one with a big ego here?
I'm not going to lose any sleep over it if I miss it but I am a notorious over thinker. It could be a good laugh with some mates. But I was thinking that I know he is married and made no mention of his wife tagging along and if I was the wife I am not sure how I would feel about my DH essentially going on a night out to meet a female colleague
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This is an invitation I shouldn't accept, right?
BumDNC · 14/12/2016 19:39
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