I've NC. I truly never thought that my MIL was a bad person, she often upset people, including me, due to the fact that she tends to be quite self centred and speaks without thinking. But I thought she had a heart of gold and was just unfortunate that she tended to say things which were taken the wrong way. She has fallen out with many family members and always seems to have problems with work colleagues, to the extent that most people would start to wonder if they were the problem. Yet she is always the innocent one and the world is against her.
For the last decade or so I have done everything I can to support her despite the fact that I find her emotionally draining. She used to invite herself round, demand attention, and then complain that I wasn't hospitable enough. Plus money was an issue. She got in to a lot of debt. We have tried to help her but we recently got married and are finally getting on out feet and starting our family. We grew to dread any phone calls from her as we knew she would start demanding money and make us feel guilty.
It all blew up not long ago and I am now the enemy. My husband has been suffering from depression, partly due to the extreme pressure from her and the fact she only gets in touch when she wants something. It wasn't my finest hour but I did finally get angry and tell her to think about her son. The only time she has got in touch since was to say how upset and hurt she is that her son is depressed. She has not once asked how is feeling.
My husband is an amazing person and has supported me through some hard times. Because I stood up for him it appears that he has lost his mother. I worry that he might be better off without me as I just can't understand how she can cut him out of her life.
I have no idea what to do. He doesn't want to talk to her due to the way she spoke to me, but she is still his mum. Yet I can't forgive her for swearing at me and cutting her son out of her life. Any advice appreciated
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confusedanddismayed · 12/12/2016 21:49
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