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For me or someone else?

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GimmieTea2 Tue 29-Nov-16 19:10:59

Hi, I don't know if any of you have read my previous posts on here about my H I haven't posted for a while but here I go again.

Today at about half 2 I got a text from H (Who was at work since 11 and not due intill 8:30 tonight)
Written exactly; Hi, I have to go to another lesson so think I will finish at half 3 in stead today sorry!! Love you Xxx

Now he hasn't said I love you to me for well over a year and never puts X's on the end of a message and also doesn't have a job where he would have lessons....also not home.
What do you guys think??

HappyJanuary Tue 29-Nov-16 19:17:38

I'd say he was texting an affair partner but the lesson thing is weird.

He could have lied about his job to her?

He actually is having lessons in something that you just don't know about?

It's an autocorrect for something else?

It reminds me of the texts I get from my children. Could one of your dc have texted him and he forwarded it to you?

bluebeck Tue 29-Nov-16 19:28:51

Agree with Happy is it something he has forwarded from your DC?

If you have reason to doubt him, and from your post it seems he has form (?) then yes he has probably told someone he is a teacher or something.

What's the back story?

LineyReborn Tue 29-Nov-16 19:34:27

Absolutely with Happy that that is a DC's message. My teenagers would send those.

Hope it's all ok.

Snowflake65 Tue 29-Nov-16 19:37:30

Does sound like a thing my DCs would text - do you have school aged children?

GimmieTea2 Tue 29-Nov-16 19:41:55

Happy He wouldn't be able to lie to someone about his work - he wear a uniform which has the company's name stamped over it. Also the DC's are home with me and I have showed them the message and they agree that it was meant for someone else.

He has lied about things before like going shopping with another women and walking the dog (Little and very old dog, apparently he went on a 6 hour walk on the beach... dog was clean as houses and wasn't even slightly out of breath) and treats me horrible all the time.

goddessofsmallthings Tue 29-Nov-16 19:48:02

He treats me horrible all the time

Why are you tolerating his behaviour?

How old are your dc and what lessons do you think they're learning in what must be a toxic enivronment in which their father doesn't have a good word to say to ther dm?

GimmieTea2 Tue 29-Nov-16 20:00:07

goddess

Because I'm independant on him, I can't drive, I don't have a job. I have been trying to find a job for the last 6 months but nothing has come up and I have tried really hard I can't keep a house if I don't have a job, and where I don't drive I am fairly limited on where I can go. They are older teenagers and adults ( adults don't live at home )

GimmieTea2 Tue 29-Nov-16 21:39:06

Ok so he is now at home, he didn't mention the text at all, I did his dinner and waited for a while then asked him, he said he didn't send a text, I read the text to him and he said he had the same one, but deleted it. Swears he knows nothing about it...but it was sent from his phone.

Believeitornot Tue 29-Nov-16 21:40:27

WHy did you show your dcs the text? Don't get them involved shock
Just ask him.

DollyPlastic Tue 29-Nov-16 21:44:06

He's lying but don't drag your DCs into it.

GimmieTea2 Tue 29-Nov-16 22:12:17

I can't be of with not getting the DC's involved, they are around most of the time so are around when everything happens anyway so I can't pretend everything's fine when he is sitting there being moody creating a atmosphere or "Joking" around.

They are old enough to understand it like I said even the youngest is an older teenager.

Believeitornot Tue 29-Nov-16 22:22:05

You don't get them to read dodgy texts and ask for their view hmmshock

They won't thank you for it when they're older.

DreamingofItaly Tue 29-Nov-16 22:50:45

I'm going to disagree with others and say I think it's great you have a relationship with your DC where you can talk to them about this. They're adults.

As for your DH. This doesn't sound great. You need to talk to him and figure this out. I'm afraid I don't have any helpful advice aside from that but be brave. You can get through this.

unicornpoopoop Wed 30-Nov-16 14:20:26

This would drive me nuts! Are you just going to leave it how he's denied it or can you do some digging?

Adora10 Wed 30-Nov-16 14:25:38

Haha, he's full of BS, he sent it, to how OW on the side.

Apart from that, he treats you like shit, instead of making excuses like I am dependant on him, go and find your own way, get a job, support yourself, your kids are adults.

OohhThatsMe Wed 30-Nov-16 14:28:36

He said he got the same one? Funny that he deleted it, isn't it?

Have you gone onto the Entitled To website, OP? And the child support?

It looks to me as though he's copied it by accident and pasted it in. I've done that sometimes and a chunk of text will appear in a message to someone else.

SleepingTiger Wed 30-Nov-16 14:45:28

Whoa......it is quite possible to get a text from a third party accidentally displaying as from someone else's phone.

But for both of you to get the same text from a complete stranger to your separate phones is perhaps something David Attenborough would find a very rare animal indeed.

SleepingTiger Wed 30-Nov-16 14:46:04

He is in love with someone else, or at least he thinks he is.

OohhThatsMe Wed 30-Nov-16 14:56:14

SleepingTiger, you're saying it's possible say, for me to send you a message, but for it to show as your husband's phone?

Even if that were true (and I've never heard of it) then it wouldn't resolve the puzzle as the OP doesn't know anyone who'd send her that message.

SleepingTiger Wed 30-Nov-16 15:03:55

Yes, at least it was a few years ago. I received a text from my DW - most definitely displayed as from her - asking me if I had thought about "Jackie stopping over xxx"

We didn't know a Jackie and DW was in hospital, broken limb, without her phone which was in my office at the time in a bag of other stuff for me to take to hospital after work.

SleepingTiger Wed 30-Nov-16 15:06:02

But OPs husbands reaction "oh I got that too" is a deflection effectively acknowledging the message exists. But saying it is false.
We all know it's bollocks.

skilledintheartofnothing Wed 30-Nov-16 15:06:57

Yes it was meant for someone else.
And he is so confident that you won't leave him he feel comfortable just brushing it off with the crappiest excuse ever.

SleepingTiger Wed 30-Nov-16 15:07:27

So unfortunately for him, he has blown whatever scant cover he had.

EverythingEverywhere1234 Wed 30-Nov-16 15:13:08

He's lying and he's doing it badly to boot. If he'd just been confused rather than deflecting, I'd almost be more likely to believe him.
I can't believe you would drag your kids into this, even if they are older.

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