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STBXH gone mad re first solicitors letter. Second thread

(70 Posts)
TBHhadEnough Mon 28-Nov-16 19:27:56

I'm shaking and my heart is racing. Fucking Bastard. It's been 6 months post convo. I'm sleeping in the other room. I finally got a letter sent after him putting me off all that time. I warned him. But he's just gone mad saying its aggressive and I'm bullying him and he's vulnerable

He has mh issues and he says that he has protection under the mental health act. I can't do this to him. Blah blah

He has said Alsorts including he will chain himself to the bed if I push him.

Now he wants me to send him an email saying I'm aware of his "illness" in addition to my solicitor knowing so I dunno, he can get his solicitor that he hasn't engaged yet to annilhate my solicitor. He has badgered me for other emails, which I've sent him but it's just getting ridiculous. He's phoned me twice, spoken to DD to say he's not coming home until mum has sent the email blah blah. Unfortunately he has come home and is being super dad right now. He hasn't spoken to me yet but I'm waiting for it. I'm fuming he's brought my DD into it

I got my thread deleted yesterday as I'd put too much detail into it.

Goingtobeawesome Mon 28-Nov-16 19:29:53

Let him do what he wants and you carry on breaking free. He doesn't own you. He's not the boss of you. Ignore the tantrums.

Shurelyshomemistake Mon 28-Nov-16 19:32:34

What a petulant (and ill-informed) child! Be the adult for your daughter. Stay strong.

Protection under the Mental health Act my arse.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Mon 28-Nov-16 19:35:00

So are you still sharing a house? I really think he one of you should leave. Disengage. Try and get things in writing. How old is DD?

TBHhadEnough Mon 28-Nov-16 20:03:15

DD is 12 FFS. I've been looking at rentals. It's becoming unbearable. I don't think he will leave because he's "too ill" poor lamb.

mineofuselessinformation Mon 28-Nov-16 20:07:57

'Oh dear, daddy's being a bit silly isn't he?' And if he calls, put it on loudspeaker. If he starts it with dd again, interrupt and tell him if he has nothing else to talk about, dd will say goodbye. Don't let him do that to her (not that I think you need me to tell you).
And DO NOT send any such email.

TBHhadEnough Mon 28-Nov-16 20:20:05

He's just come in and asked again. Wanker. He said I should be true to my word. He caught me out at work and I was blustering on the phone. I don't even remember what I said FFS That's what he means by me agreeing to send an email. Wanker.

I told him I'm feeling really ill just like him I'll get back to him. Wanker.

My solicitor wasn't in today so I shall pass all info on to her and get her advice. He wants the email because he wants to know if he should get a lawyer. Err yeah?

Earlier via email he said perhaps we should tell 'your kids' i.e. Taking himself out of the parentage about my soliciters letter. He also threatened me with some big gun lawyer that is a brother to his best friend. They're very wealthy and well connected. Fuck right off.

Anniegetyourgun Mon 28-Nov-16 21:34:09

I haven't read the Mental Health Act cover to cover, but am prepared to be very surprised indeed if it says anything about not being allowed to divorce someone with MH issues hmm

RandomMess Mon 28-Nov-16 21:39:39

What is your housing situation - owned as tenants in common, or rented or???

TBHhadEnough Mon 28-Nov-16 22:11:30

Oh fuck it's really all gone wrong. He's gone fucking mad. Shit. He tried to grab my phone off me. Kids came in and saw him on top of me. He's been in and on at me fucker. Had to tell kids. They're fucking devasted fucking c@@. I fucking hate him. Shit shit shit. I never believed he would grab me.

TBHhadEnough Mon 28-Nov-16 22:13:38

He's blaming it all on me. I've made him ill it's my fault. He's said all this shit in front of the kids. I recorded some of it. That's why he went even more mad. He has been fucking relentless and refused to leave the room and the kids are there crying.

Are you somewhere safe now?

TBHhadEnough Mon 28-Nov-16 22:14:23

I've sent the recording to a friend. I hope to god he got it as I showed stbxh me deleting the vid.

If he is not letting the kids out, p,ease call the police - for their safety.

He has assaulted you - he is not safe around you or them.

TBHhadEnough Mon 28-Nov-16 22:15:21

He's now n my room. Both kids are in there. He's saying good night and being jolly dad fucker. I'm in kitchen. I feel fucking sick. This sort of thing shouldn't happen to me.

ohfourfoxache Mon 28-Nov-16 22:16:02

Police- he's assaults you

PacificDogwod Mon 28-Nov-16 22:16:16

Are you safe just now?
If so, take some deep breaths, have a glass of water/cup of tea.

Phone the police if you are not safe - tell them you feel threatened and there are children in the house.
If nothing else, your call will be logged.
They will come and make sure you are safe.


TBHhadEnough Mon 28-Nov-16 22:16:27

I can hear them. I'm in kitchen. I'm ok but won't sleep much tonight

ohfourfoxache Mon 28-Nov-16 22:16:58

Are you safe?

TBHhadEnough Mon 28-Nov-16 22:17:07

The fucker also mentioned to them that he wants to kill himself. My DD is really upset fucking can't

Thattimeofyearagain Mon 28-Nov-16 22:17:17


ohfourfoxache Mon 28-Nov-16 22:17:41

Actually doesn't sound like you are

Can you get a friend to come over urgently

TBHhadEnough Mon 28-Nov-16 22:17:53

Jesus. He's talking about xboxed

It doesn't sound as if you are safe. Please call the police.

LineyReborn Mon 28-Nov-16 22:19:17

You know what? Fuck this. Call the police.

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