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Any suggestions for a small wedding

12 replies

usernoidea · 28/11/2016 14:31

My bf and I are keen to get married next year but to us being married is more important than the wedding itself.
In addition to this his parents are now remarried and when together at family gatherings are a tad frosty
In ideas as to how we can involve them, whilst keeping it small, without us getting too stressed?! X

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Happybunny19 · 28/11/2016 14:35

Tropical beach somewhere lovely without family?

Chasingsquirrels · 28/11/2016 14:35

We had a registry office wedding and then planned to go for a meal afterwards at a restaurant in a local hotel that we used to eat at.
There would have been 12 of us.

Not sure how that would work with frosty relations between attendees.

What about just the registry office wedding, maybe a toast in a local pub. Then go and have a meal to celebrate on your own?

smEGGnogg · 28/11/2016 14:39

Some friends of ours got married late afternoon at the registry office then had a cake reception and champagne toast at their local pub. They put some money behind the bar for everyone then went straight off on their honeymoon. It was lovely.

MrsFring · 28/11/2016 14:41

We buggered off to New York - our favourite city - and got married in the UN chapel. Was ace.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 28/11/2016 14:42

That sounds lovely smeg

2014newme · 28/11/2016 14:43

Problem with frosty relationship between guests is its hard to hide with a small wedding. I think I would go abroad and have a big party when I got back.

usernoidea · 28/11/2016 15:12

It's really tricky doing small when things are awkward and I'd love to have the balls to just F off but some parents would be devastated!
Thanks guys x

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thegreenheartofmanyroundabouts · 28/11/2016 15:24

A church wedding has the guests on different sides of the church and the formal setting means that people usually behave. Then go to a pub for lunch.

Goingtobeawesome · 28/11/2016 16:33

If they'd be devastated then they need to grow up and not be frosty on your wedding day.

Mouikey · 28/11/2016 18:53

Family politics aside, what would your dream wedding look like - that's the starting point and then try to adapt.

It might be worth talking to the parents/in laws in advance to ask them to set aside their differences for the day to facilitate a loving memory for your own marriage. Might that be possible?

MikeUniformMike · 28/11/2016 19:01

Smeggnog's suggestion sounds great. You could do a small church wedding followed by a pub meal with no top table or a village hall buffet. Been to wedding like that and they're just as nice if not nicer than hugely expensive ones.

TheNaze73 · 28/11/2016 19:30

Love the suggestion from smeg

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