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Shall I get back with my ex?

(5 Posts)
BReal11 Sat 26-Nov-16 20:28:30

I was married before to a guy who I absolutely loved. The love of my life. We had a daughter together who's almost 6 but split over 2 and a half years ago because he messed around with another woman. After about 3 months of being split I started going out with another man. I made it clear I wanted another baby to him but after a couple of months he said he didn't want any more kids. He already had 2 of his own. I was very upset. Anyway almost two years into my relationship with my new partner I split up with him because I wanted another baby. About 2 days after we got back together because I thought I could make it work. I couldnt imagine my life without him. We went on holiday came back and a couple of months later I broke it off again with him because of the baby thing. Me and my ex husband always maintained a good relationship due to my daughter ans she is happy and he offered me his spare room. So I took it. A week in he's told me he wants me back and he'd do anything to keep me and on the other hand my partner I left I'm. Missing him like mad and and now I don't know what the hell to do. I know my ex husband is sorry and I think we could work things out but i dont know how i feel on that. I'm still raw over my partner I split with. I miss him so much.does anyone have any advice on what they would do? I'm beside myself and I don't understand why I can't make my mind up. I'm making myself so u happy help please

Queenoftheblues Sat 26-Nov-16 20:46:39

I would move on from both of them. One cheated on you, the other doesn't want kids with you. You sound like you can't bear to be single. That attitude leads to picking the wrong man. Maybe look into therapy before you embark on another relationship.

HeddaGarbled Sat 26-Nov-16 21:52:39

Don't make a decision about getting back with your ex H when you are still grieving the break up of your relationship with your ex P. That sounds like a rebound. I agree with Queen, you need some time as a single woman. Look for some independent accommodation for you and your daughter.

Mungobungo Sat 26-Nov-16 22:01:45

All I'm going to say to you is that your exes are exes for a reason... and in your case it sounds like with both of yours, they're pretty solid reasons. One cheated on you, effectively showing the he has very little respect for you or your marriage, the other has completely different wants in life. Stay well away from both. Be single for a while, it's not such a bad thing!

SandyY2K Sat 26-Nov-16 22:15:18

Why do you think your Ex is sorry? Because of his words or his actions?

He was the love of your life and he cheated on you. Could you ever trust him again?
Why did he cheat? And why do you think he wouldn't do it again?

I do know couples have got back together after a divorce, but it's not always the best idea. Although it has also worked out for some.

Remember ... there are more than these 2 men to choose from. Take time to clear your head and deal with the break up. Tell your Ex H, you're not in the right place to agree, because you're fresh out of a relationship and need time on your own.

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