I'm not sure if dh is narc or wanker but after 10 years of feeling unloved, uncared for and a totally unfulfilling relationship, I've told him I want to separate. Since I told him this, he's swanning around like nothing has happened and made no effort to find anywhere. I would be happy to be the one to leave but we have a joint mortgage and I'm not sure he could afford it alone. I'm fortunate to be financially stable so can afford to rent and cover childcare costs for my 2 dd's. But I'd be worried about him defaulting on mortgage and so me becoming liable for that as well as the place I'd rent. He has made next to no financial contribution to the mortgage or household costs even though he works full time. He said he'd contribute more when I was on maternity leave but never did. He has given no emotional support over the last 10 years. He came to none of my pregnancy scans with dd2 even though he was working shifts and able to. He didn't help with any school runs when I was exhausted and asked for help. I work from home and am expected to accommodate him when he wants a break from looking after dd2. There are so many things i could mention but in short I've had enough and need to be shot of him. What can I do if he won't go? If I leave I'm putting myself at risk financially because of the join my mortgage.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Narc or wanker?, Not sure but need him gone.
13 replies
Roastturnip · 26/11/2016 14:21
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.