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Beautyisintheeyeofthebeholder · 25/11/2016 23:02

Wasn't sure where to post this but here goes.
I recently got back in contact with a friend who well, we had a sexual thing with a while ago. I've never been able to suss out what makes him tick relationship wise and it always intrigued me.
We got talking about sex and he told me that he only dates average looking women as the sex with them is " fantastic" as they make more of an effort in the bedroom to please. Now I'm above average in looks... With out sounding vain it's what I get told a lot, and he said I was good (sex wise) with a bit of cohersion. Now this has stuck with me for some reason and I've changed how I think of him. He's also admitted to using hardcore porn all the time and watches women getting used by men.
I'm posting as I'm not sure if I'm being too insensitive, or what to make of it really.
Any replies appreciated

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dementedpixie · 25/11/2016 23:03

What are you asking?

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Beautyisintheeyeofthebeholder · 25/11/2016 23:06

I'm asking is it really a fair statement to say that all plain women are more eager to please the man in bed than a beautiful women. I feel he is being an arse. I just wanted another opinion.

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Thundercake · 25/11/2016 23:17

He's being an arse

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leaveittothediva · 25/11/2016 23:18

Well he obviously thinks he's a sex God, Guru, and with looks to match. What's not to like.!!!. He sounds like a complete knobhead. He only dates average looking women, basically saying he thinks they make more of an effort. Jeeeeezus, I've heard it all now. He must think he has a diamond cock. You say yourself you are above average in looks. What are you doing wasting your time with this porn addicted douchebag. There are plenty of decent real men out there. Drop this self absorbed creep. That's all I've got.

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TheStoic · 25/11/2016 23:20

He's negging you.

Look it up.

You're supposed to jump into bed with him now and give him the best performance of your life, just to prove him wrong.

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Woody67 · 25/11/2016 23:25

He sounds like a complete dickhead!

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SallyR0se · 25/11/2016 23:29

Is he fairly average himself? With delusions of Sex God? I've fallen for it myself... You're not the only one! At least now you know, the intrigue will wear off sharpish.

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Beautyisintheeyeofthebeholder · 25/11/2016 23:35

I suppose he is average. But saying that he looks good for a man late forties. And a bit bigger than average down below Blush

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DonaldStott · 25/11/2016 23:38

Ewwwwwww. What a horrid man. He may have a big dick, but he also IS a big dick.

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Ricecrispie · 25/11/2016 23:43

Not true, im below average looking and like a sac of potatos in bed, by my own admission, I just cant be arsed. Although when I were younger and more attractive I did make more of an effort I suppose Grin

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AdoraBell · 25/11/2016 23:44

Complete knob. That would be last conversation if it was me.

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crunched · 25/11/2016 23:47

TheStoic has this spot on.

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SallyR0se · 25/11/2016 23:48

You being good looking will have made him insecure, as well. Hence having to put you down, or negging as another poster said. Blokes who wave the love truncheon about often don't have much else going for them...

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KindDogsTail · 25/11/2016 23:48

He's doing that trick to make you doubt yourself and make you feel compelled to show him he should please, please find you super sexy too.

Do not fall for it. Walk away.

Who is he anyway to think he is so great?

You could just as well say, "I find always find that men who never talk about their sexual experiences are the best lovers."

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KindDogsTail · 25/11/2016 23:52

I've just looked up what you said Stoic I did not know there was a name!

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Beautyisintheeyeofthebeholder · 26/11/2016 00:00

I didn't know there was a name and it fits what he said. Thank you all for your responses. So much appreciated Smile

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MrsTerryPratchett · 26/11/2016 01:26

I thought negging as soon as I read the OP. He's a wanker.

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PenguinsandPebbles · 26/11/2016 01:31

Nothing more unattractive than a penis attached to a complete and utter cock.

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Cricrichan · 26/11/2016 01:40

What kinddogstail said lol

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