some may remember me from my leaving-my-dh thread last year... www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2495459-aibu-im-just-so-tired-v-v-long
I've somehow found myself with a new man I may or may not have dithered about committing to him for an obscenely long time but in my defence my marriage burned my fingers
I've sort of decided to just never introduce him to my children, who are still small (all under 5). Again this may or may not be because I am shit scared of well everything to do with men really, even when they're lovely like this one is
How feasible is this? I have three nights "off" every week, I spend two or all of them with New Man, I think that's quite a lot really.
Is it necessary to blend a new partner into your children's lives, if you don't have to? I can understand how for many people they are sort of forced to, because they have limited time without their children around, but I don't have that pressure very much.
Sometimes I think I would love to have New Man around almost every night. I sometimes miss him really dreadfully at night after the DC are asleep and I'm alone in bed. And then at other times I think, thank fuck we don't live together/don't spend almost every evening together. Penises Men are wonderful but I've realized I'm quite introverted and enjoy being on my own.
Plus, isn't it really quite difficult to combine competing Mummy-is-cuddling-new-man with DC-still-want-to-be-main-cuddle-receivers priorities? Never mind New-man-is-childless-and-probably-has-no-idea-how-demanding-and-limiting-small-DC-can-be ...
Anyone got any advice?? Should I start introducing him to the children, or should I plan to, or is it possible just to leave it indefinitely?
I suppose the best way to word the question... what can go wrong in NOT introducing them/ having them share space at times?
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Has anyone just never introduced new man to DC?
thestamp · 25/11/2016 21:34
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