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cancer and visitors

(5 Posts)
user1480099089 Fri 25-Nov-16 18:41:05

My mum has cancer and is having chemo, obviously very distressing! dad said I cannot see her for 3-4 months as she is susceptible to getting ill if I have a cold or anything. My sister is taking her to the chemo every week as she lives near, my sister is a doctor so has more exposure to illness - I live 1 hour away. Thoughts?

LIZS Fri 25-Nov-16 18:45:29

Do you have young children? It does seem extreme.

imnervous Fri 25-Nov-16 18:47:59

Wow. So is your mum not planning on leaving the house (apart from chemo) for the entire treatment?

I'm shocked as My DS (7) is on chemo and apart from when he's neutropenic we try to live as normal a life as possible. We generally avoid anyone who has anything more than a cold, so chest infection/ tonsillitis/ stomach upset.

Left Fri 25-Nov-16 18:48:53

Would you like to see your mum and support her? Maybe your dad is being overprotective, perhaps you could offer to wear a surgical mask to counteract his fears? Have you asked your sister what she thinks?

When my relative had chemo I cancelled if I was ill but visited if I was well, other visitors did the same so she wasn't isolated but the risk was minimised. Hope this helps, and hope everything goes well with the chemo x

BlackSwan Fri 25-Nov-16 18:49:06

That's horrible. Suggest you speak with your mother directly and see how she feels. I would let her settle into the chemo before heading over perhaps. And suggest yourself that when you visit, if that's ok with her, you will use hand gel and a face mask even. She's your mother - only natural that you want to be with her particularly at this time. I would keep young kids away though...

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