I will try to keep the story brief, a few weeks ago I came home from a trip (husband still away with work too) and found a letter had been posted to me, this letter told me my husband was not a nice person at work basically and that because of this they thought I should know he had been having an affair for some time with a manager at work! it was very out the blue, I waited until he came home and challenged him, which of course was met with complete denial and a very long explanation about issues at work and that as a senior member of the management team they obviously felt aggrieved and this letter was just that 'to cause trouble'. I did some research myself and in fact there is no manager of the department in question mentioned in the letter, and the only senior member in that team is a man!!
I questioned him and challenged him a lot over a few days, a lot added up and some did not of which I never fully got an answer or to the bottom of.
In short I chose to believe him and move on however I find myself now snooping and questioning what he's doing. He has gone away tonight for something to do with his hobby which he does attend every year but is going alone this year, I found him ironing favourite shirts late last night to take despite him having plenty ironed already. I'm not of proud of it but earlier this week I snooped in his brief case and he had a wad of cash £350 quid which I don't know why, this is unusual and we share an account!!
There are various small things I notice along with being over attentive that I can not put my finger on but my gut tells me something is not right!
I just don't know what to do, he is very clever at talking and quick thinking, and I'm finding myself pulling away - what's an outsiders view here guys?
Thanks
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manga42 · 24/11/2016 13:36
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