My DM has been in a relationship with a lovely man for a few years. They live together and are happy, the relationship is not without its issues but all standard day to day gripes rather than anything major. I really like him so this is not about my feelings, however, he has told me that he plans to propose to her on Christmas Day and he would like my help finding out her ring size. The thing is, I'm not at all sure that she is going to want to say yes. She has always said she would never get married again (horribly abusive ex-step father). She is happy now but I also know she would walk away from the relationship and still be happy, I don't think her BF would be. I can't decide whether I should tell her about his plans or not so she could either try and put him off or just have time to think about whether it's what she wants or not. I worry she will say yes when asked because she couldn't bear to upset him but then will end up upsetting him even more if she tells him she's changed her mind at a later date.
So do you think I should do anything? Or just keep my nose out and see what happens. Maybe she will be happy and if I've told her then it would ruin the lovely surprise. She's never been all that big on surprises though
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Should I speak to DM about her prospective engagement?
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OldKingThistle · 23/11/2016 13:44
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