Will try to cut long story short...my mother has had various episodes of difficult behaviour, one of the hardest of which occurred when I was 19 years old. She would self harm and show me the scars, she one time blamed me for the fact she was self harming because I'd done something teenager like (drinking too much at a party). On another occasion she told me to take the scissors and knives to work with me (I was living at home) and when I didn't she said I clearly didn't give a shit about her. Other times she would go into a rage and break the crockery on the kitchen floor whilst yelling at me for something.
Years later I have confronted her about this stuff in the hope of some repentance/resolution as I am still angry that it ahppened, but the answer I get is that she'd been in an emotionally abusive relationship for three years and I should read some books about what that does to a person. I am compassionate to her situation at the time, but I can't bear the fact that it is used as an excuse. I should also mention that this behaviour was never discussed at the time, only when I built up the courage to talk about it in my late 20s.
I guess I'm asking whether she has a point...does being abused excuse certain behaviours? Thought I'd get some different perspectives on here. I'm really busy so apologies if I don't respond quickly to posts.
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Does being emotionally abused make this ok?
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Spottyhands · 21/11/2016 14:18
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