I have what I used to think of as a really close friend.
For 4 years I drove her 2 dds to school and back. She would usually come along too. We spent a lot of time together during those years too. Our 2 dds are very close friends.
Girls are now in year 8 they went to 2 different schools and it is my last child in primary where as she still has a younger child there. So still is in the midst of primary school stuff.
I know there is issues with where my dd went to school. (Church of E and only outstanding in the area and she would have liked her dd there too. She is not a church goer so was a no go - her dd is in a good with outstanding features and is thriving as is my dd in her school) I know this is a bit of airritation with her as she wanted her dd in the school where mine (and a 3rd friend) went..
Over the last year and a half the girls have still remained close friends. Daily texts lots of phone calls and they meet up every Friday (almost) at a youth club. DD still considers this girl a close friend and I know the girl does too.
However I have noticed I am being cooled off by friend. She is a bit hot and cold. Will often go on about how she misses me. However will not consider meeting up in the evening (I now work full time) and often will give me 2 hours notice she is meeting another friend do I want to come. Knowing I work shifts so likelyhood of my being able to ad hock like that are minimal. I will admit to feeling rather hurt over this but not a lot you can do.
Today is DD's birthday party. (Sleep over and movies) I spoke with my friend a while ago about this. Agreement was that her dd would join the sleep over late as her sister has a show on (dance classes they have one of these every half term) Yesterday I sent her a facebook message (we usually communicate this way and she is on it regular) asking if she wanted to drop her dd's sleep over stuff before they went to the dance show so it was all ready for when dd arrives.
No response from her.
Today I sent her a text asking the same.
No response
So I ask dd to text her friend. Friend responds almost straight away saying she is at her grandmas now and isnt coming tonight. (so going to grandmas and off to show - this often is how they do these things)
Later I get a text saying " sadly due to tiredness after all of this her dd wont come"
I feel so hurt. She basically avoided the issue and let me think her dd was coming. I feel very low in priory in her life (having for many years felt I was a close friend so high priority) I have responded that my dd is disappointed and for them to have a good day (dd is disappointed) I know this likely will mean she wont contact me for a good while. However I really do feel hurt. I suspect it is also because had it been the other way around I would not have taken the sibling to such a type of show.. Another friend is joining late too as she is at a big event today (football) with her dad and sister. then coming here after so she would not be the only one who was late (friend knows this)
Its difficult to work out how to do the friendships once your children leave primary. I have found several have dropped off the radar however I think with this one she was a woman where I really felt she wouldn't drop me. yet I think I am being dropped.
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Enkopkaffetak · 19/11/2016 14:45
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