Just that really.
With my exH, he was a lazy fucker who didn't work and did nothing around the house, so I did everything. I felt like a slave. I promised myself that I wouldn't let myself end up in the same situation again.
Except I am basically in the same situation again, except DP is absolutely not a lazy fucker, in fact he works very hard in a manual job, 6 days a week.
This is where I'm struggling because in a way I find it only fair that I do more in the house than he does because he works a lot more hours than me, but at the same time I'm becoming increasingly annoyed with the fact that he does literally nothing. I'm at uni 2 days a week but at the moment I'm working all the hours I can to make extra money and still have uni work to do in the evening and I'm exhausted. I know DP works more hours than me but our commutes are almost exactly the same (if anything mine is slightly longer) and if you add up the hours that I do in uni, work, and home study its probably not that different from what he does except that I don't get paid for all the hours I do.
We don't have and will not be having children so that isn't an issue but I do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.
Trouble is, I have no idea how to fairly divide the housework and stuff because, in all honesty, its always been me who has done it all. How do you do it (without breaking up)?
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How do you get a partner to pull their weight in the house?
FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname · 17/11/2016 10:49
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