I need a SHL.

[therealpippi]

It looked as if it was going to be amicable. But I am starting to suspect (prob a little late on the game) that it is only amicable as long as I say yes and it is all his.

I may need to prepare myself.

Any advise is welcome and suggestion of a good layer, even if not sh, in north london or herts.

Tia

[goddessofsmallthings]

Have you initiated divorce proceedings, or has he? Are you still living under the same roof and do you have dc?

[therealpippi]

Stbxh is going to move out in a couple of week into a flat we have bought. It is a trial although I think we both know there's not much left to save. I suspect we are fooling ourselves to soften the blow.

It is for the major part very civilised and amicable but, as I said, it all goes back to the "it's all mine" blah blah

I'd like to get some info on how it could go were we decided to continue on this path. I think I need someone to ram it in me that I am entitled to whatever I am entitled to have.

If it makes sense.

We have a house with a mortgage. A flat with no mortgage. Savings. Two dc.

[therealpippi]

Apologies for typos and bad grammar, feel a bit shellshocked today after another vile attack from h...

[PreemptiveSalvageEngineer]

I've PMed you, pippi.

Best of luck.

[goddessofsmallthings]

How old are the dc? Do you work and have you and stbxh come to any agreement relating to childcare arrangements?

Would a mortgage raised on the apartment be sufficient to pay off the mortgage on the marital home (the house), or would the savings be sufficient to clear the mortgage?

[therealpippi]

Dc are young. 9 and 10.

Saving would halve the mortgage. They are money I've just inherited and before I put them into the mortgage I need to know where I stand