I wasn't too sure where to post this as it's not about me. My Dsis and her fiancé have recently split up. There is no going back; although they parted on fairly good terms. Both of them are sad at loosing the other. He was very much part of our family and was (having been around pre-DC - over 5 years) Uncle to our DC. Following the recent birth of DC2 we were thinking of asking him to be godfather; he was/is incredibly special to us. We haven't told our eldest yet as she will be devastated. We have had a couple of close family bereavements over the last year, including one of her grandparents a couple of months ago. She has also had a lot of change recently and is really struggling.
I wrote Dsis's fiancé a letter to tell him how much he means to us and that we will all miss him. He wrote back saying the same and recounted some lovely stories of DC including a mention of the Christmas tradition that he had with DC and that he thought it would be nice if we continued it.
Up until now I have primarily been thinking about our eldest and how she will feel. It really hit me today how much he has lost; not only his fiancée but his in laws and nieces. We were all very close. He didn't want the relationship to end and I feel devastated for him. I don't know what to do, if anything. I want to support my sister and feel that I should just reply with a final email acknowledging his nice words and then move on because it's none of my business. However the sad part of me wonders if we could continue a friendship with him so that he can still be a part of our children's lives. Then I wonder if this is better or worse for our children as this would surely be confusing in itself.
I would really value some impartial opinions because my judgment is massively clouded because I miss him too and feel as if I am grieving. If there were no children I would just suck it up for my Dsis. I think I have probably answered my own question, I just don't like the answer!
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MaverickSnoopy · 15/11/2016 19:55
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