Help me out, my head is wool

[CathysGhost]

I am a long standing member, had a name change and made a new account with a new email.
I don't know what the fuck I'm doing with regards to my marriage to be honest. I need some advice!
Married 7 years, 2 kids aged 5 and 2. We both work full time in professional jobs. I can't make my mind up whether to leave my marriage or not. I don't get on with DH at all lately. Everything about him antagonises me but I'll break it down to the main issues:
He has no patience at all with my son,and speaks to him like crap. I feel like I've got to stick up for DS all the time and then get accused of undermining DH.
I don't fancy him. Why would I when he's a narky, joyless drain?
If I left him, he would make my life hard work with dealing with childrens arrangements etc.

I literally don't know what to do. 3 of my close friends have been literally left on their own with their kids and I've seen how hard it is. I don't know if I can do it? What if I throw it all away for a rut?
Like I said, I have no fucking idea. Help me.

[OohhThatsMe]

If I were you I'd move in with those friends and make life easier for all you!

Of course you don't fancy someone who's horrible to your son - how could you? Is he too daft to understand that?

I wouldn't be with someone who was nasty to my child. I'd do anything to get away from him. Is your son his, too?

[AnyFucker]

Horrible to your son ?

Your way forward should be clear, surely ?

[CathysGhost]

Yes, he's our son. He has no patience at all. He's a normal 5 year old with normal 5 year old naughtiness and you'd swear he was on trial. DH just goes on and on and on....
I have no money and nowhere to go if I left. Watching my friends struggle has been an eye opener, and has left me scared to be honest. I have a lovely home now that my kids love. If DH cheered the fuck up I could stand to live without a romantic life. I don't really care about that. I just want calm and peace

[Costacoffeeplease]

You're not going to get calm and peace with him though

If he's like this with a 5 year old, how will he cope with a strapping 15 year old?

[CathysGhost]

I say that to him all the time. I'm a teacher, I know how much teenagers can push buttons and he is so ill equipped for that.

What do I actually, literally do though? He wasn't always like this. I used to really respect ext him as a person iyswim. He was a good guy. Now, he's a boring miserable twat

[ihatethecold]

How about relate?

[CathysGhost]

Been there, done that. Sadly.

[AnyFucker]

Do you want to use up your one precious life sticking with a boring, miserable twat?

[Graphista]

Parenting class for him?