Dh and I have been together since I was 17 and I fell pregnant young. He was a nightmare through the pregnancy and dd being young (he was only 20 himself).
In the past he has been caught speaking to other girls online, I once found pictures of a half naked girl he had been speaking to and texts to an ex girlfriend while I was pregnant.
I have no idea why I didn't leave, I was young and scared of being alone and we got married while I was in my early 20s and had ds.
He has been violent to me in the past, not repeatedly but it's happened more than once and he has made me feel very uneasy in my own home at times.
A couple of years ago I gathered my courage and decided to leave. I told my family I was leaving and I felt good about it all. He decided he really wanted it to work after this and I decided to give it another go. I can honestly say as we're approaching our 30s he's a very different person.
He's kind and supportive, he's a very good dad and works very hard. If I had met him now we would be very happy.
I just can't move forward because I'm always looking back. He was very young and obviously not mature enough to handle everything before.
I am a sahm and would struggle to support dc's if I leave. I feel I'm being unfair to dh by dragging up the past but I'm not sure if I can move on from it.
I don't know what I'm hoping to get out of this post really but just wanted to vent some of my feelings.
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YouSaidItAgain · 15/11/2016 11:30
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