NCed for this
Met 2-3 years ago, started on the 'FWB' scenario as neither of us actively wanted a relationship. This evolved into an actual R and we were happily together for a year
Split up as he found me ;too much' (was going through various MH things at the time and don't blame him at all)
Got back in touch around 3 months later, ended up falling back into the original setup
Fell out majorly over christmas due to my drinking - had a huge row, I was genuinely disgusting. I tried to reach out to him over this and he said he'd already forgiven me but now was not the time for us to be together as we were both struggling with outside things
No contact for 6 months. This summer we got back in touch, started having sex just to have sex. I was upset about this more than I was letting on but never gave him this impression and things were 'fine'.
Fell out a couple of months ago over a silly argument which was kind of brought about due to us both pretending not to care. I emailed a week later saying I'll always respect him but that's it now
He got back in touch saying it was sad that everything was so final and he had regrets. We ended up speaking by phone. it was nice. He acknowledged that he'd been trying to make it as non coupley as possibe. I said that evidently doesn't work with us. No final agreement made, left open.
He came round this weekend and we had the most coupley weekend we have for ages. He was nice, I was nice, we both had a nice time.
Now I need the confidence to a) tell him I want to try again or b) just stop this because it's not good. Maybe both.
For the record, since we actually split up two years ago I've not said I want it so he's not necessarily playing me. In fact I've tried to be as coy and cool as possible, which is the habit I'm now in. I kind of want him to deal with this...
Confused.
Both mid 20s and no children, for reference.
I don't know if I need to man up, some moral support or to get a kicking so I'll let you lot decide
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Bleurghghghgh · 14/11/2016 20:28
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