Hi everyone,
I have a real trouble with my SIL who seem to just want to make me feel miserable. For example, she is one of few who knows I am pregnant (8 weeks, first pregnancy, only my 2 best friends and mum know apart from her) and yesterday she called to tell me about how miscarriage rates are very very high, and how it is a real miracle that any baby is born. Oh and did you get your nausea yet? (I didn't, I do feel a bit uncomfortable but nowhere near full nauseous, which I told her) Oh well then it will get worse. No supportive comments. No encouragement. Nothing.
She says it all in such a polite way that I don't even realise how hurt I feel until she hangs the phone. Seems like she brought passive aggressive to a new level. And then I feel like a real idiot for not calling her up on it- as I do when stuff like that happens in most of my other relationships with people.
This morning I spent three hours crying and being anxious about what she said, paying so much attention to my stomach terrified something will go wrong (although we did have an early scan last week and there was heartbeat and it all seemed , as a lovely lady said, 'perfect').
My husband is on my side, and supports me 100% which is really great, but I would really like to find a way to deal with her /stupid and insensitive/ comments in a way which wouldn't make me so very anxious and not leave me feeling like an idiot. At the same time, I don't want to do the same as her as I don't think that would help (well, apart from the first few minutes of seeing her face)...
WTF is the good adult response in situations like that?
Please help.
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LittleLight42 · 14/11/2016 15:20
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