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My daughter has been taken away from me.

(286 Posts)
Emmie1201 Mon 14-Nov-16 12:33:44

It isn't fair, I'm her mum. Mum knows best sad I can't believe they're allowed to do this.

AnyFucker Mon 14-Nov-16 12:34:44

What exactly has happened ?

NoCapes Mon 14-Nov-16 12:34:48

Who is 'they'? Social services?

toofarfromcivilisation Mon 14-Nov-16 12:35:02

Do you want to tell us about it? :-(

Gazelda Mon 14-Nov-16 12:35:03

That sounds really tough. Have you any support through this - legal, emotional, practical?

FourToTheFloor Mon 14-Nov-16 12:36:31

Sorry but mum doesn't always know best. I'm sorry you're obviously in pain with this. But maybe talking here will help?

Emmie1201 Mon 14-Nov-16 12:37:19

I'm a good mum. Always have been. I feel like I've lost her. It's awful. Yes, SS.

Ginmakesitallok Mon 14-Nov-16 12:37:37

mum doesn't always know best, we can't give you much advice based on your op. Who are "they"? Why have they taken your daughter?

Afreshstartplease Mon 14-Nov-16 12:37:54

For what reason have they removed her?

MrsJayy Mon 14-Nov-16 12:40:01

This is devestating for you however Ss dont just take children what happened do you want to tell us?

Thatwaslulu Mon 14-Nov-16 12:40:23

Have you been given the reasons, and is this due to having an action plan that you have been working with?

Emmie1201 Mon 14-Nov-16 12:41:32

I was told that it could happen, but they don't understand that it isn't my fault.

Bluntness100 Mon 14-Nov-16 12:41:51

Hi, I'm really sorry this has happened to uou, can you explain why they took her and what the plan is?

mrstomriddle Mon 14-Nov-16 12:42:10

I think you need to go into a bit more detail if you can, so people can advice or help you in some way

LIZS Mon 14-Nov-16 12:42:18

They don't remove with cause or concern. Have you been trying to work with ss to avoid this situation?

Soubriquet Mon 14-Nov-16 12:42:20

Sorry OP it must be awfully hard for you

But sometimes mum doesn't always know best. Sometimes she makes mistakes that can't be ignored

SS don't remove children for the hell of it. It's the very last resort

AnyFucker Mon 14-Nov-16 12:43:33

You will need to give more detail if you want constructive help, love

Where is her father ? Are you together or do you have another partner on the scene ?

Emmie1201 Mon 14-Nov-16 12:44:26

I was working with them though, I was trying to follow what they told me

MrsJayy Mon 14-Nov-16 12:44:51

What isn't your fault are you able to tell us

HandbagCrazy Mon 14-Nov-16 12:45:21

I understand that you're distraught OP, but posters here will only be able to help if we understand the situation.

How old is DD?
What reasons have they given for removing her?
When was she removed?
Where have they taken her?

flowers for you OP

Natsku Mon 14-Nov-16 12:45:42

I'm sorry OP this must be very distressing for you but SS don't remove children without good reason. You say its not your fault - is it because of someone living in the same home with you being a risk to them? If so, can you move out/get them to move and work at getting your daughter back?

DoItTooJulia Mon 14-Nov-16 12:45:47

Why were SS involved with you? And what went wrong if you were trying to comply?

Thatwaslulu Mon 14-Nov-16 12:45:53

Sometimes, SS will intervene for the sake of the child if the mum makes bad choices, or is in a dangerous relationship - if a partner is violent or using drugs for example. It doesn't mean that the mum is to blame for the other person's actions, but that the situation isn't safe for the child (eg if the mum stays with the violent partner).

Emmie1201 Mon 14-Nov-16 12:48:08

I'm trying to get away from her dad, but he just keeps coming back. I do keep him away, but as he still turns up they count that as him still being with me, it isn't fair

AndShesGone Mon 14-Nov-16 12:49:22

If he's not allowed to see her you have to call the police every time he turns up. That's how you protect yourself.

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