Long story short, my sistet and I have had little or no contact with our dad for many years. He is a spiteful, controlling alcoholic. I tried to make.amends a few years back but he threw it backback at.me. I wanted to agree to disagree and he wanted me to apologise whilst he ignored his own much larger list of wrong doings. I made peace with it as I tried and it was very much his choice to continue. My sister and I have always very much been on the same page which has helped.
My sister told me at the weekend that her and my dad have been talking for the past few months. In fact, it would seem they are rather close as she has.confided some very personal matters. it turns out he instigated contact.
I feel so hurt. Partly because my sister kept it from me when all along shes shared my views on him. But mostly because he had chosen her and sidelined me. If you are going to make contact with your adult children, surely its both? I didnt let on how I felt to my sister. Just feel so confused. To top it all, I fell out with him once over some shitty things he said. Whereas my sister has sworn at him, stolen money and alsorts over the years.
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Lucy7400 · 14/11/2016 07:41
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