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Please stop me texting my ex

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blerghblerghblergh · 13/11/2016 19:14

Split up 3 months. But it doesn't seem to be getting any easier. I just started crying on the bus on the way home. I just don't see how I can ever meet anyone that I can feel the same way about.

I have this awful urge to text him and beg him to take me back. Logically I know he won't and I know he won't say anything that could possibly make me feel any better. But it's so hard. Please help me.

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BratFarrarsPony · 13/11/2016 19:16

the best thing you could do would be to delete his number x

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ParisGellar · 13/11/2016 19:16

Before you text, type here what you're going to say so we can read it over before you send it.

Then delete his number and don't send it!

Why did you break up?

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Sugarpiehoneyeye · 13/11/2016 19:24

Can you begin to imagine , if he took you back, because you begged ....
What sort of man would do something like that ?
I know you are hurting, but it's over, and you really need to move on.
It ended because it wasn't working out.
It takes two to Tango !
I'm sorry that you are hurting OP. 💐

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VivienneWestwoodsKnickers · 13/11/2016 19:30

Delete the phone number. If you know it by heart, all you can do is try to remind yourself of what you wrote in the OP about it being fruitless. And talk to friends.

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Paddington72 · 13/11/2016 19:31

Please don't do it.
I did and the humiliation afterwards is really not worth it. Eat chocolate, drink wine, meditate, work out like a demon, buy yourself something nice, talk to a friend, post on here but DO NOT TEXT, EMAIL OR ANYTHING ELSE!!!!

You will get through this I promise you (no facebook stalking either).

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Lupinlady5 · 13/11/2016 19:36

Don't do it. There is literally nothing that can come from it except a feeling of humiliation. Delete his number.

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Sn0tnose · 13/11/2016 19:41

Don't do it!

If it helps, think back to other relationships where you've felt heartbroken. You don't still feel like that about those people, so you know for a fact that this feeling isn't forever. And if you text him now, when you do start feeling better, you will regret doing it so much.

Delete his number, bin anything he gave you, don't listen to sad music or watch any romantic films. Concentrate on doing the things that he didn't enjoy doing, or that you didn't really do while you were with him. Spend time with friends and family. If there's stuff you need to say to him, write it down in a notebook. Get it all out, all the feelings you can express. Then tear it up into a million little pieces and stick it in the bin. Do that as often as you need to until you don't feel that desire to contact him anymore Flowers

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