Hi folks,
I would appreciate any advice on how to help my adult (23) daughter who is going through a VERY bad relationship breakdown. She was with her female partner for two years and it was always tumultuous. They have never officially lived together but practically did for about 18 months. In the last six months her partner has moved away from us (about 3 hours away) and the relationship has cooled. They went on an extended holiday over the summer whilst they were both between jobs but had saved enough to cover it. It was not a roaring success and I received many calls from DD in bits about something the other had done. Mostly quite cruel as we lost our lovely old cat (16yrs) while she was away and the partner said why are you crying I hate cats, get over it!
When they returned from holiday (september) they effectively split up but I found that my DD had maintained contact as she was desperate to continue the relationship.
This weekend DD drove 3 hours to see her (pre-agreed) only to arrive and find out that she was seeing someone else. She promptly turned around and came home but has been in absolute bits since.
She isnt eating, drinking or sleeping and says she is thinking of ending it and cannot see life without her. Obviously I'm extremely concerned and have done everything I can think of to help her and explain that painful as it is it will pass eventually but she is beside herself.
Has anyone got any experience of what I can do to help her?
Her dad doesnt know she is Bi so it is difficult to explain to him what is going on. She has asked me not to tell him as she has had boyfriends before and she is worried he wont 'get it'. Bless him. He is very concerned and knows he is missing something but I'm stuck in the middle on this one too which isnt helpful as he cant be expected to be sympathetic if he doesnt really understand what is going on.
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Adult Daughter Completely Distraught After Relationship Breakdown
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LoveLabs · 13/11/2016 15:45
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