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How can I find out if my brother's still alive?

(5 Posts)
Bubbleicious1 Sat 12-Nov-16 09:44:13

I come from a very severely abusive, very small, broken family. I am nc with all of them. The last communication I had with my brother was about 18yrs ago but he subsequently had a massive nervous breakdown & cut himself off from everyone. Nothing bad happened between me and him but I think, like me, he needed total time away from everyone to heal himself. For many years I used to keep tabs on him online, via 192 & the electoral register. For the last couple of years I haven't been able to find him at all. To be honest I wouldn't be surprised if he'd taken his own life although I sincerely hope he hasn't. He was abandoned by our mum at 4yo. I know I've had an almighty battle healing myself after our terrible childhoods and I'm not sure if it's been possible for him to heal severe neglect/abuse from 4. He was a shattered young man. The only details I have are his name & full D.O.B. Neither of us are on any social media and there are no friends/relatives I can approach. To be honest I expect our small extended family have no knowledge of his whereabouts either. I don't want my presence/perceived interference to bring back painful memories to him if he is still alive. I'd just like to check from a distance that he's still with us if that is possible.. Any ideas?

AttilaTheMeerkat Sat 12-Nov-16 09:47:20

I would contact the Salvation Army's tracing service.

Bubbleicious1 Sat 12-Nov-16 09:50:20

Thanks Attila, I'll google.

EverySongbirdSays Sat 12-Nov-16 18:36:52

Have you thought about Long Lost Family on ITV.?

I know it might be too exposing though.

jerrysbellyhangslikejelly Sat 12-Nov-16 18:40:31

If you really think there's a chance he could have passed away, could you check online death notices?

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