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Divorce of parents and my marriage now.

(4 Posts)
Ladycakescc81 Fri 11-Nov-16 08:54:49

I don't really know how to explain this but I will try!!!
My parents split up when I was 11 and naturally mine and my siblings little world collapsed, but we all got through it and we all get on still as a family as my mum and dad are both amicable and have always been there together with no awkwardness as if still a family but a complicated one ha ha. I always thought I was pretty unscathed compared to some of my friends whose parents marriages broke down, however now I am married myself I find I'm constantly thinking my marriage will one day end, that my husband will leave me and I will be on my own. There's no reason for me to think this we are extremely happy, my husband is lovely and I adore him and him me... but I keep waiting for my bubble to burst... Because I always saw my mum and dad as blissful (rationally I know now as an adult it wasn't and the reasons why it ended etc) but I just can't shake the feeling that all marriages break up!! Am I the only child of divorced parents to feel like this?
Feel a bit of a loon for posting but it would be nice to know I'm not the only one who feels like this? hmm

Sohardtochooseausername Fri 11-Nov-16 09:38:33

I feel like this too... Particularly as my bubble has been broken. But that could be because I settled for someone who might not be the right guy.

If you have no reason to think there is anything wrong then please try and relax! If you are both putting what you need to into the relationship, and you're both honest with each other then you have nothing to fear.

Ladycakescc81 Sun 20-Nov-16 08:14:08

Thanks glad I'm not alone in feeling like this. I'm couldn't be happier with my husband which makes me feel even more of a loon for feeling this way! Need to try and just enjoy it and try and put the worry or of my mind.
I'm sorry to hear you have had a bad time. I hope you are ok xxx

YetAnotherGuy Sun 20-Nov-16 08:48:44

I can understand the way you feel, althogh my parents were very happily married

All I would suugest is

Don't let it spoil something that's already reallly good

Go the extra mile doing small extra things to add some nice touches - like sending texts when you don't need to, telling him what a great lover he is etc

But come down on him like a ton of bricks when he does something seriously wrong. Most successful marriages I know are where the wife is really nice about her DH and looks at him adoringly, but you really wouldn't want to be there if he came home drunk, for example!

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