Ive been married 9 years and unfortunately it started off terribly. DH was borderline abusive. I had no say in major decisions, house, finances, children anything really. He was disrespectful and cruel to me. I was deeply unhappy. It was pretty bad for me and massively affected my confidence and self esteem. I am ashamed to say that I didn't have the courage to leave and stayed for 5 years till I couldn't take it anymore and told him I was going to leave.
After this he improved massively and he tried to rectify things. But tbh alot if things he made decisions about without my consent arent rectifiable and has resulted in us living in debt and just being generally poor. I feel his decisions have ruined my future, my life and I can't get past the pain and heartache he has caused.
Im stuck in the past and I have a very strong urge to leave. He really wants me to stay but I can't get rid of the pain he caused me. Some of the stuff he has done is unforgivable.
Has anyone else been in a relationship which started off bad and then improved. Did you get over the past?
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Has anyone been in a relationship which started off awful but then improved considerably?
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ListenUpEverton · 09/11/2016 05:07
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