Good evening (or morning) everyone,
So I'm not a mother, I lost my baby 12 months ago now and I come on here as I get comfort from you women giving me advice (or harsh truths sometimes) I deleted my old account but somehow I'm back here...
So here is what I need to talk about:
2 years ago I went over to Belfast with work. I was away from the end of October till the 23rd of December!
In those two months I was there, 8 became really good friends with someone...he was a really sweet guy, we kept in touch.
Recently we got speaking about work, the times we spent together with friends in Belfast and general chit chat about life.
As the conversation opened up, he found the courage to tell me that when I was in Belfast, he always had feelings for me. Due to me starting a new relationship when I went out there, he didn't want to step on anyone's toes.
As we discussed it more, he told me that he's never looked at a girl the same way, that he told all his friends about me, but, like true Irish gentlemen, they told him to not say anything and to not cause any awkwardness, as this could ruin our friendship.
The thing is...as much as I shouldn't have, I found myself liking him too, when I was over there. It was hard, we never did anything, no kissing, no touching, not even flirting (much).
My relationship with the guy I was with ended when I came home, after finding out he'd been seeing another girl. It was a blessing in disguise, I later found out he had a wife also!
So, now, I'm single, happy but very confused after being told how he feels. It makes me regret those two months, but, it's also brought back feelings I can't suppress anymore. Since he told me we've spoken nearly every day, not loads but the odd message here and there.
I'm really confused with what I should do or say. He lives in Northern Ireland and I live in England. It's so confusing because the chemistry I had with him, was so natural, I didn't have to try, and neither did he.
What are your thoughts?
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It's taken him two years to tell me...
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user1478651093 · 09/11/2016 00:39
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