My husband & I have been separated for nearly 6 mths (my choice) & I have been living very happily in my own house for about 2 mths.
I have a new partner & we are very happy - my husband suspects but doesn't know fully about my new partner.
My STBXH was very abusive in the past (emotionally & verbally) which resulted in the police being called. He has made numerous suicide threats (designed to stop me leaving). He never let me go out with friends and would phone every hour to check where I was. It was such a relief to finally leave (after 25 yrs), I sat in all the moving boxes & cried.
Now I try to keep things on an even keel and we have had a pretty civil 'friendship' in the past 4 weeks but I find to do this I give up a piece of my soul every time - being nice just so he doesn't revert back to his old abusive behaviour. He says he needs a cuddle and pulls me towards him & then whispers things like "I've got a semi" - I feel violated & sick. telling me know will love me like he does.
On Saturday he needed our (still jointly paid for) car (this was genuine) & I completely forgot I had left my wallet in the glove compartment. As he drove off my son realised he'd left his phone charger in the car as well so I phoned him & he looked and found the charger. Whilst looking he found my wallet. He reversed & gave me the charger. On Sunday morning he phoned & started questioning me about where I had been on certain dates - he questioned what I had spent £5.46 on in Boots, he had found Tesco receipts & worked out what branch things had been bought at. He then admitted he had found the wallet and purposefully kept it so he could go through it.
I just don't know the best course of action of how to deal with him anymore.
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user1478545823 · 07/11/2016 19:45
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