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Best Dating site for over 40's

(22 Posts)
Chh03 Sun 06-Nov-16 18:50:09

Well ... can't believe I'm single ... but my lovely partner.. has decided he can do better.
So not ready yet but wondered if you wise people can tell me the best place to look.


jeaux90 Sun 06-Nov-16 19:50:53

I found match or Pof pretty good mainly because socially I met people as well as dating. I met a couple of guys who are just friends now. Off the dating scene for a bit but have been on OLD for the last 4 years until recently. Eharmony is rubbish, not enough choice, tinder is a meat market

Notsurewhy2020 Sun 06-Nov-16 19:53:50

Hope you're okay, op?

Jeaux90, I would agree. But as with most sites, you have to weed out the players. Have you tried any yet, op?

Fairylea Sun 06-Nov-16 19:56:07

My mum is 67 and has been on plenty of fish for a while now. She's had two good boyfriends from it but they didn't work out for various reasons but shes still hopeful and has met some lovely people through it, many have just turned into platonic friendships.

I am 36 and met dh through plenty of fish when I was 29. Yes I'm sure people will come along and tell you how awful it is but I think it's just a huge site as it's free so you do get more weirdos simply because there are more people, but if you're ruthless and block and delete as necessary you'll be left with the good ones!

jeaux90 Sun 06-Nov-16 20:01:50

Yeah absolutely notsure raises a good point I mean you have to really qualify them in our or out pretty quick. Don't over invest emotionally, move to a phone call as quick as you can as speaking tells you way more about someone than messaging does. Make sure they are who they say they are ( google them etc) and don't compromise on the big stuff

jeaux90 Sun 06-Nov-16 20:02:16

Oh I am 45 by the way

Notsurewhy2020 Sun 06-Nov-16 20:03:18

Absolutely, fairylea. I'm dating a lovely guy at the mo who I found on POF. Had it have been tinder, I'd have swiped left blush. At least with POF, you can build up (albeit) a flimsy idea of any potential dates.

Donatello68 Sun 06-Nov-16 20:08:09

I am in the same boat. I have just set up a free profile on Times Encounters. I am a bit apprehensive so, haven't handed over any money yet.

Notsurewhy2020 Sun 06-Nov-16 20:09:33

I must have had around 60 different dates, punctuated by longer term r'ships & I think it's only now, that I have realised there seems to be a certain pattern & that you can tell a lot about someone by their writing style. Eg, putting more than two kisses after a message is a huge turn off for me. Especially in an introductory message hmm

Notsurewhy2020 Sun 06-Nov-16 20:13:24

There's a great dating thread in relationships..

Fairylea Sun 06-Nov-16 20:17:34

Can I just say one of the best tips for internet dating is always make the first date a daytime coffee. Not dinner. Then you can always escape quickly and easily if they're not your thing! And if they are.... well dh and I met for a coffee and stayed until the coffee shop closed 4 hours later! grin

Donatello68 Sun 06-Nov-16 20:18:57

It seems to be a complete minefield!! I am a recently divorced 45 year old single mum and haven't been on a date for 24 years. I am just looking for a few nights out. If I make some new friends, great. If it leads to more brilliant but, I am not holding my breath!!

Blobby10 Sun 06-Nov-16 20:31:04

I'm 47 and joined earlier this week after separation/divorce from 20 year marriage. Had lots of views and two chaps sent emails but both not in my 'range' ie over 6ft tall!! Have clicked favourite on several people but none have replied. Not sure how much longer I will give it as its making me feel very negative about myself.

Changing my profile for the third time tomorrow in the hopes that it will garner more interest.

Good luck Chh03

jeaux90 Sun 06-Nov-16 20:37:52

Fairy Lea good tip and lovely story grin

ShatnersWig Sun 06-Nov-16 21:18:45

I'm afraid I found them all hopeless and I know many friends who said the same. Interestingly, despite the statistics saying a large percentage of people now say they net their OH online, I know dozens of people who have used OLD but only two long term relationships. Most nothing more than a series of dates. I think it makes a huge difference depending where you live

Donatello68 Sun 06-Nov-16 21:40:37

Thanks for the advice Fairylea! I live in a rural area so was hoping to meet people with common interests further afield. I have so far been messaged by a 60 year old bloke in Thailand and another from Costa sel Sol. It hasn't started well!

jeaux90 Mon 07-Nov-16 08:04:49

Donna what site are you on? You also need to message people, just thought I would mention that as I found some guys I dated said they never would have messaged me (apparently I am intimidating grin)

Donatello68 Mon 07-Nov-16 10:48:18

Thanks Jeaux. I am on Times Encounters. I have only just set up my profile. I haven't plucked up the courage to message yet! 😳

pregnantat50 Mon 07-Nov-16 10:58:41

I will be joining you in the OLD scene in January. I have had 2 abusive past relationships that I am not completely recovered from so trying to get myself back to being me before I put myself back on the market but I have promised myself I am going to get back in the dating scene after christmas.

I have tentatively joined one in the past: and had a few men showing interest and a couple asking me out, but I just couldnt take the next step. It just feels really scary but I am going to be more proactive when I re-join.

Let me know how you get on and which site you think works best for you


Chimpfield Mon 07-Nov-16 11:02:36

My best experience was with Match, but you have to have a thick skin and I did get to the point of giving up, often thought of writing a book about my experiences (you couldn't have made them up!) - then I met my husband and five years on am very happy.

Donatello68 Mon 07-Nov-16 21:48:56

That is good to hear Chimpfield! Glad it works. I am not having much luck - unless I am after a man in his seventies!!

MadameJosephine Mon 07-Nov-16 21:54:29

I met my ex on We were together for 9 years and are still friends so I've recently joined back up

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