I would appreciate some ideas / thoughts on how to sensitively but definitely end a 'relationship'. Haven't dated for 2+ yrs.
Background, met a guy online, honest and open that he was just separating, know this is true and he lives 3 hrs + from his stbxw. Been dating for 6/8 weeks, I know this as super early days, not even a relationship to me hence my inverted commas ... but does think we are in a relationship. He is running head on into this, I think almost in a way to forget the hurt of his marriage ending / justify why his marriage is over- he spends a lot of time telling how great I am because stbxw didn't do or say that .... I have explained that he cannot pitch my behaviour against hers, I am me and I want to be viewed as an individual not an improved model of what he had before.
Anyway getting onto why I am ending this ... I've been struggling with a cold / ear infection since Monday ... was made to feel bad I'd not seen him so went over to his Thursday evening, nice catch up, bite to eat, watched tv, he made the right noises about being concerned for me. We went to bed, nice cuddle and sleep. When he woke he asked did I sleep well, I said I'd been awake half the night as too hot / cold / unsettled, he could see I was not well... said I needed to get up in a min so as not to be late for work ... we had a cuddle then he said as he moved my hand south that it was a bit much not having sex either last night or this morning and said for me to touch him. In a daze / because it was easier than rowing I did and he was satisfied!
I want to rip his head off now but genuinely don't think there is any point because he won't see the problem... was meant to see him last night but cried off with my cold (I'm actually much better) ... his concern is that he won't get a cuddle while watching fireworks ( we were meant to go to a display).
He does have anxiety issues and has told me of past bouts of depression so I don't want to annihilate him especially as ex wife is doing that (maybe rightly so) I want to end without a hint of maybe.
Ideas please.
Thank you
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How to end it ? ... tell me to put my big girl pants on
smilingeyes79 · 06/11/2016 07:27
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