How to part quickly and less expensive and amicably?
In brief - great love of my life my husband of 18 years moved out. he talks 2-years separation but is against a full divorce as it is 'too final'
Last 3-4 years were not easy for me and us at all. He got more money and power while I was sitting at home looking after our little son. Mutual attraction seems to have vanished. Last year we had sex 5 times and it was very short. Not really enjoyable for me.As I am a soft and love loving person. It may sounds strange but I had all material things but I wasn't happy as the main element was missing - affection and love. We go out together so rare and don't have common hobbies. Yet he says he loves me.
His shouting and swearing at me become progressively worse over last years...Our child witness this and tries to protect me..We discussed and agreed about parting terms several times.However it all got out of hands when he suddenly got jealous of the other guy.
I am totaly confused on what should I do
- if we are separated now then why he is still controlling me and my life? WHy our finances are not shared fair?
- if he still loves me why then to behave that way and humiliate me, neglet our sex life and move out?
- if I apply for divorce how can I do it on unreasonable behaviour but 'soft version'? I am worried that if I apply first and will put the truth of his scandals down on papers, he then will start his ' adultry version' but that prolonging the process and increasing legal costs?
My child and I quite happy now living on our own - peace and comfort. Yes I miss him and I also will love him deep in my heart. But we can't live together anymore.
How to part quickly and less expensive and amicably?
thank you to all