I feel like I'm going round in circles, no one to talk to in RL, as family and friends think DH is Mr Perfect, hence the need to offload and ask for your help on here.
I'm a SAHM who has just started studying for a degree part time. Dh has his own business and he is out early before the DC awake and has a return home time that is variable (sometimes he's back for school pick up or DC activities, other times he is travelling around the UK or at network evenings). I'm expected to run the house singlehandly. I'm getting increasingly frustrated and trapped, the DC have hobbies that mean my evenings are busy, he does help when he can but there is no set pattern so if I wanted to plan a mid week catch up with my friend or take up a hobby, it's nigh on impossible.
When I ask/ beg for more time it is given, but with a caveat of how lucky I am and that means he is not committing to his work due to my 'neediness' and selfishness.
I'm feeling worn out and depressed, I've said I want him to leave but he has warned me that if we do split, my situation will be much worse and I won't be able to cope on my own. But why should I be with someone who makes me feel so unhappy, like a maid rather than a wife?
I love my family but I need some time for me and I'm not getting it, I feel he has me over a barrel as he is the provider of the house. It won't be easy to find a part time job due to the DC and my studies but I can't bear this unhappy, trapped feeling. There is no one that can help me as I don't have a good relationship with my DP (narcissism) and the friends I do have have situations worse than mine, they would be shocked if I told them I was unhappy as everyone comments how lucky I am having such a supportive and kind DH.
He won't see that his help is really not helping, there is no emotional connection and I really resent him being out whilst I'm stuck at home.
I'm starting to really want us to split but I am scared, he is right about my neediness (something which I wasn't before DC)
Sorry for the long post, I needed to write it down before I burst! If anyone can offer me any assurance that it will be ok I really need it.
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I'm feeling trapped, I just want to escape
Womadia28 · 03/11/2016 22:18
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