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Boyfriend spending £200 week at Pub!!

(56 Posts)
sunnydays2099 Tue 01-Nov-16 21:22:49

I have been with my bf for 2 years and he has always been a drinker but when we first met we both were going out 4 nights a weeks but now we are both renting together and life has become more real to me.
He drives a taxi so he does 9 or 10 hours a day but goes straight to the pub after and gets back at midnight EVERY night!
Every week he is paying a huge tab and promises to stop going so much but never stops. He contributes quite little to bills just enough to cover his own and thats it.

He has booked a chistmas holiday to tenerife this dec and tries to make me feel bad that he is having to work hard so he should relax there if he wants.
I don't think £800 month at pub and being lonely all time is a reason to relax.

Iflyaway Tue 01-Nov-16 21:25:35

Why are you with this guy? It doesn't sound like he adds anything to your life.


TheWrathFromHighAtopTheThing Tue 01-Nov-16 21:26:20

Jesus, £200 a week?

He must be driving over the limit every single day. angry

ImperialBlether Tue 01-Nov-16 21:26:23

Oh come on, OP, what is the bloody point of him? Why on earth would you be with someone like this?

crje Tue 01-Nov-16 21:28:49

Get rid

My dad drank every day after work,we all blamed ourselves.
Drinkers are so damaging to their families.

clumsyduck Tue 01-Nov-16 21:29:03

You never see him ( this would be an issue alone even if he was going straight from work and nursing a single pint of orange squash all night )
He wastes 800 quid a month
He probably is frequently over the limit
He has an alcohol problem

Come on op

Neonoen Tue 01-Nov-16 21:29:44

Every taxi driver I know is also a gambler

Is he gambling?

expatinscotland Tue 01-Nov-16 21:29:58

Your boyfriend is an alcoholic. You enable it by paying for most of everything. When your tenancy is up, you move out.

BantyCustards Tue 01-Nov-16 21:30:15

Yeah. Nope. Move on

BIWI Tue 01-Nov-16 21:30:42

Welcome to Mumsnet, sunny.

Surely you don't think this is acceptable?

What are you going to do about it?

JennyOnAPlate Tue 01-Nov-16 21:31:05

How can you maintain a relationship with s man you presumably never see? You're not a priority in his life op flowers

Princesspinkgirl Tue 01-Nov-16 21:35:16

I don't think it's normal behaviour for anyone to drink like that personally I'd end it

sunnydays2099 Tue 01-Nov-16 21:39:04

I want out now. My tenency is up next june. I have moved to a new town with him away from family. He doesnt drive after the pub as the pub is a 2 min walk from flat. But he's lucky he hasnt been stopped next morning as its still probably in his system.
He is an ex gambler too but really does NOTHING about the excessive drinking. We have argued about why is he out working so long if he ends up gasping for a drink and not just a couple but till its lock up time.
(Why the lanlord lets him have unlimited tabs idea!)
He is now paying for this holiday coming up, acting like I should be grateful but yet never worries about gas/elec or food...nothing else that concerns me.
Lonely c**p existence

Bluntness100 Tue 01-Nov-16 21:39:47

I'm sorry, but you're not really in a relationship. He works all day and spends all evening in the pub. Comes home, rinses and repeats.

you simply flat share.

AddToBasket Tue 01-Nov-16 21:41:53

How much is he spending on gambling?

goddessofsmallthings Tue 01-Nov-16 21:45:06

He has booked a chistmas holiday to tenerife this dec and tries to make me feel bad that he is having to work hard so he should relax there if he wants

Has he booked and paid for you to go on this holiday too, or is he trying to guilt trip you into thinking that he needs 'me time' over and above all of the hours that he spends with his mates at the pub?

crje Tue 01-Nov-16 21:47:48

Pack a bag & move home.
He isn't worth having.

Offred Tue 01-Nov-16 21:50:45

Is it a joint tenancy agreement?

Offred Tue 01-Nov-16 21:51:57

Oh and he is gasping for a drink because he is an alcoholic, not because he works so much. In fact he is working so much to maintain his addiction.

ImperialBlether Tue 01-Nov-16 21:57:51

Just out of interest, are you going on holiday with him? If so, is he paying for you? Just wondering about the gratitude involved.

sunnydays2099 Tue 01-Nov-16 21:59:50


Yes he has booked for me and his daughter from previous relationship. It is like emotional blackmail he loves holidays and would works all hours gods send if he knows he has a holiday booked and in a way he is much easier to get on with when abroad because we spend time together but as soon as we are back home in toutine he is just a drunk who contributes very little and I feel he is so selfish and we dont NEED eachother or atleast I dont need him.

clumsyduck Tue 01-Nov-16 22:00:08

Yup op what are you losing out on by leaving he is never there anyway is he

BMW6 Tue 01-Nov-16 22:01:12

He is an alcoholic. You can;t help him.

Offred Tue 01-Nov-16 22:01:32

What does his daughter's mother think about him working all the hours god sends just to piss away £800 per month?

sunnydays2099 Tue 01-Nov-16 22:02:23


He doesnt gamble anymore or not that I know of instead he is now having huge tabs at the pub and Kingston is not cheap for pints and shorts or whatever else he drinks.

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